Whether we lead the life?
Let`s try to understand as the vital program according to which the person lives in society and identifies itself in it is formed.
All begins with the childhood. The first “I want“ also the first it “is impossible“. The first tears from misunderstanding of this others adult world. Thus, before the little man “anchor buoys“ for which it is impossible to swim away are placed. Any attempts to break these bans are punished. It is called morals.
The morals inherently are average idea that it is good and that it is bad. And each little man is unique. He does not know yet whom he will be, and nobody knows it. So far it is only clay from which an environment creates the form. A brick it will be or the graceful vase - depends on an environment of the little person.
Gradually the personality begins to get certain ideas of this world, the part of which will change still more than once. And some of them tightly will grow into consciousness, will become part of the personality. Whose it representations? Most often it representations of mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, brother, sister, first teacher, domestic authority.
Likely, much of those who found Soviet period, remembered literature lessons. The image of the hero or anti-hero of literary works was given categorically, unambiguously, without any attempts to comprehend it. I do not know, maybe, not at all so was, and those rare teachers who induced pupils to think and solve came across to someone. Such pupils were lucky.
I remember compositions in in advance prepared texts which we wrote down from dictation at lessons. It would seem, all is clear and clear: this is the enemy, and this is the friend, this traitor, and this “ours“ etc. What waited for that the few which dared not to agree with the common notion? A bad mark - yet not the most terrible. Worse: misunderstanding, condemnation and sneers behind the back. And still asked a question: you that, the cleverest?
To be dangerous by the cleverest! This signal, likely, was transmitted genetically from the senior generations which remembered destruction times in Stalin camps of all who thought differently who could take an independent stand and courage to defend it.
Here so, with the imposed stereotypes, the person begins the independent life. Can be therefore life of many young families is so similar to life of their parents repetition of the same mistakes. And not therefore whether such unfavourable statistics of stains is now observed?
Let`s try to understand what makes today our idea of life? For this purpose it is possible to ask itself several questions:
1. For what acts you got approval of seniors?
2. For what acts you received punishment?
3. What acts of your parents you approved / condemned?
4. What literary hero you wanted to resemble?
5. Which of real people was your idol?
6. Whose opinion you consider as more authoritative: scientists, politicians, President, chief, the?
7. Whether favourably to have the opinion when it differs from opinion of the majority?
8. How many once a day you a smotritetelevizor?
Such questions it is possible to set 100 and even 1000, but the essence of answers to them will not change. The most part of answers will show neglect own opinion. The part of answers will teeter on the brink between the ideal and representation of the majority. And only absolutely small part of answers will show children`s naivety and misunderstanding of this world. The world which was thought up by people who live in this thought-up world the thought-up life.
What if children know something like that that we do not know about this life (or we do not remember) we are adults? Let`s try to listen more attentively to words of the child, especially to his questions. You do not find that questions of children often call into question reliability and logicality of our adult picture of the world?
And it is valid: why the person is not able to fly?