“Work“. What is behind this word for the child?
Agree that our children like to be at us at work. They like a situation - computers, chairs on castors, palm trees, mirror elevators, devices for tea or coffee, copiers …
Well and, of course, it is pleasant to children that adults pay them attention, give notebooks, treat with tea, discuss how they grew up.
Certainly, matter not only in positive emotions which are received by our children, being at “mother`s“ or “father`s“ work. Each parent dreams that his child had a positive spirit in relation to work in general. And children too … dream to graduate somewhat quicker from school, institute, to receive a profession and to go to work as mother (father).
However as practice shows, the relation of children to work of mother (father) and to work in general can be opposite. You judge. Some parents it is free or involuntarily put some idea to the children that their work - continuous penal servitude to which they are forced to go to support a family. Children are convinced of other families that work is a pleasure for the sake of which mother with the father leave them on care of teachers, grandmothers, nurses.
Thus, periodic excursions of children to the duty station of mother (father) help to create real idea of in what his parents during the day are engaged at the child.
Besides almost on each workplace to the child is what to be engaged. Children with interest study the world connected with professions of mother or father whether it be laboratory, mail, shop, the museum, car service etc. Of course, to bring the child for work and to look after there him quite troublesome and not all colleagues sometimes approve it, but for development of the child it is very valuable experience.
If someone has no opportunity to bring the child for work (at the enterprise high access control), try to acquaint him with the business in absentia. For certain houses you have some photos, booklets connected with work. Share with the children, tell about with what you are engaged at work (as far as it is possible), who your colleagues what production consists of.
Yes, it is fine to bring children for “beautiful“ work. There polite aunts and uncles, everything smile and with pleasure meet any child. And if mother works as the conductor in the trolleybus which is always crowded with people or is engaged in distribution of cosmetics, goes with a huge bag on various organizations? And the father temporarily out of work, today it at one work, tomorrow - on another. Such state of affairs is given to usually ambitious people hardly.
Me it is thought that one my old friend who told the daughter did right thing: “Our father is an architect, he is very capable expert, but now it is temporarily busy not in the specialty. It repair apartments, it at it well turns out. And I am proud of it“. The main thing not to transfer to the child of the offenses to life even if you consider that it managed with you not quite fairly. You do not say to the child that you are forced to do this awful work now … It is much better to admit that sometimes it is necessary and hard conditions to find a way out, but not to do nothing.
Not for nothing the American writer Kurt Vonnegut noticed that “the charlatan is everyone who cannot explain to the six-year-old child, than he is engaged“ .
Yes, it is absolutely difficult to explain to the child what pay money for. If mother is a doctor, then she, of course, treats people. It is more difficult to explain to the child, than the exchange broker, the sociologist, the psychologist, the auditor etc. is engaged. If official duties of mother (father) narrow and difficult for understanding of the kid, then spin to it tasks in which your organization is engaged.
It is also necessary to explain in that case to the child that each working person does something useful and receives for it a salary. Let know to the child that on the earned money it is possible to descend in shop behind the necessary things, in a hairdressing salon, …
Should notice cinema, theater that parents should conduct conversation on money, earnings and professions until their children grow up. What is acquired by the kid in 5-6 years differs from what interests the child in 10-12 years.
For example, there will be a question why not all people work? On what those who cannot work for health reasons live? If in dialogues of parents and children on economic subjects adults already lifted conversation on pensions, privileges, taxes, the social help etc., then it will be easier to conduct further conversations with children.
And still. Small children are often inclined to underestimate merits of the unemployed family member. Unless mother, because what she stays at home, raises small children, cleans the apartment, erases and irons, it is possible to call “idler“? Of course, no.
It is also necessary to explain to the child that his kindergarten or school - the most real work. And it is unimportant that nobody pays for it. How the child will cope with it, his future depends. But at the same time you should not draw a direct parallel. We know many examples when the former poor students became successful businessmen, and excellent students “vegetated“ on a low-wage job.
Perhaps, will be more honest to tell children that good study expands opportunities for choice of profession in life and promotes success. And it is already a lot of.