To give or not to give to children money? The serious financial question
at the time of my childhood a question whether it is necessary to give to children pocket money, “did not torment parents“. Money and children was concepts incompatible. There was even a peculiar myth: money - the dirtiest thing on light. They visited hands of millions of people, and on them incredible quantity of microbes. It is better for children not to touch them at all. Otherwise it is possible “to pick up“ some awful illness.
Today I already have grandsons, but, having touched money, there are a wish to wash up as soon as possible hands with soap. And the question whether it is worth giving to children money, sets thinking many. In life of our children they take not an afterbirth now.
Money for children in Soviet period, of course, had no such value as today. What the child could spend then them for? To go to the cinema, buy ice cream. The large sum in hands of the child was surprising and guarded. People were not so strongly separated as today. Therefore the message about “big“ money in children`s hands quickly would reach their parents.
Change times and living conditions
Today cases when three-year-old children understand the cost of diamonds, mobile phones are already frequent and prefer a car of fashionable brands. To give on a birthday to kids money became an everyday occurrence.
- Mashenka! Give me the money, and that is not enough for me to pay for purchase.
- If you return it then to me and will add still rublik, then - please.
- is good, do not worry. I will give!
Similar dialogue - not a rarity presently. The problem “children and money“ is not solved as unambiguously as earlier. Therefore parents have open question... whether
to Give money to the preschool child?Psychologists and people with long-term experience with children tell
categorical - no! In this case the saying is very topical: not in money happiness.
They explain the position very simply. Children of preschool age are always accompanied by adults. All purchases are done by the father with mother, and in kindergarten “the“ money are not necessary to children.
The desire to have them is an opportunity to ego-trip in collective. But such self-affirmation negatively affects formation of the identity of the kid. He wants to be allocated not due to the character and ability, and at the expense of things, toys, money. And for the person it is important to be able, but not to have.
To allocate kids with serious privileges - means, to slow down their psychological development. They get used to receive all ready, without making at the same time any efforts. As a result - infantility, not ability and unwillingness to work. But at the same time it is available unreasonable appetites and claims. whether
Are necessary pocket money to younger school students?
According to experts, does not have special need in it. Of course, if cultural visits of cinema, theater, a zoo or other place, interesting to children, are made, then small pocket money will not prevent. Small sum will not cause envy in schoolmates and will not provoke to rash unnecessary expenditure of money.
But with a growing also the need for money increases. Birthdays of schoolmates, on March 8 and other holidays assume let not expensive, but gifts. And it is for this purpose good to have a moneybox in the house. On the one hand, this money is not earned by work of the child, but with another - all - they are not given according to their first requirement. At children the concept is formed: to buy, nuzhnonasobirat the necessary sum. Thus, the child learns to commensurate desires with opportunities.
On what it is important to pay attention to
Moneymaking sometimes turns into passion. At the child at the same time the skopidomstvo can develop. Pay attention if the child is often called “greedy person“, then it is better not to get a moneybox.
Children can independently dispose of money from a moneybox. But at the same time in a family the rule has to be followed: not to buy the “forbidden“ things which it was declared by parents even before emergence of a moneybox. whether
Should paying for good marks?
It is unambiguous - no! At the child the impression can be made that good marks, and are more right than knowledge, are necessary to parents more, than to it. Time is paid, so it for some reason is necessary for them? At the same time the motivation to study considerably decreases. To earn more money and not to afflict parents, children begin to use cunning and hide bad notes. whether
Should paying for housework?it is not necessary to
Better. In - the first, you, anyway, suggest the child to become the hired worker. And the philosophy of a family is based absolutely on other principles: love, mutual assistance and understanding. In - the second, children get used to do everything only for money. And what consequences? What to wait for when they have already the family? Anything good. Family life can not develop at all. And parents will sponsor the overage little son all the remained life.
the Teenager and pocket money
In this case a question is particularly acute most. But absence of control is unacceptable! Teenagers are eager for independence, and there is a lot of temptations in the modern world. Here targeted financial support is necessary, and that if you are not afraid for behavior of the teenager.
The side job during vacation has to be welcomed. The first money earned with the work - an important event in the teenager`s life. They begin to estimate really the opportunities, to understand how money “gets“. From them you will not hear rollicking any more - you will think, some hundred dollars! There is a peculiar revaluation of values.
It is good when the teenager gives part of the earned money to a family. Quite so the care of close people takes root.
Money as a gift. Well it or is bad?to Give to
for a holiday money - quite taken roots custom at many people. At us the preference is given to more original things - gifts. Though one for all the rule does not exist. However, accents are placed. It will be more correct to small children to present nevertheless a gift. For matured, perhaps, “envelope“ will become the best gift.
Here, as they say - tastes differ. But there is a choice!