How to return pleasure of life?
Allow to illustrate a subject with a joke.
Village. The husband with the wife are going to the market.
- we Will buy a cow. there is no
- - the husband answers, - let`s buy an accordion better!
- the Fool, an accordion you will not milk!
- the Silly woman, on a cow you will not play!
We see two people with two different relations to the world. The wife - the hostess, shows the natural and expected business wit, aiming at something, in economy obviously necessary. And what husband? Its position - a position of “child“ in comparison with “adult“ and practical approach of the wife. The question “What It Is Better?“ or “What It Is More Correct?“ is absolutely not so simple as it can seem at first sight. Of course, if to give to the child unlimited freedom, he will begin to play from morning to the night and to eat one candies (that will end sadly).
But whether so certainly the position of “adult“ for whom the food is only food for an organism, and the main filling of life - so-called “business“ is advantageous? And “business“ is meant not actually as “Business“ (which from capital letter) - calling and a way of self-updating - and even not only work as a profession, getting of a piece of bread, necessary for all, but also the sphere of life - i.e. that activity in which we “are forced“ to be engaged, organizing the vital space. And the considerable part of this work does not even serve creation of comfort, and is dictated by social norms and conventions. “At the good hostess of the house purely“ (read: “You want to be considered as the good hostess?“). “The house has to be - a full bowl“ (and it is unimportant that from living is not thirsty anybody any more from this bowl because exhausted, filling it).
Yes - the cow, undoubtedly, is necessary. But unless this only thing necessary for us? Denying in itself the Internal Child whether we impoverish own life, whether we cut an opportunity to rejoice - to rejoice just like that how children can do it (until we did not train them in “the appropriate gravity“)? Becoming adults, we incomparably expand our opportunities in all spheres, except for, perhaps, with one - spontaneities of perception of the world which opens a way to pleasure from the feeling of life.
But “cutting off“ of the imennoety sphere inexpressibly robs us, doing our life fresh and, in fact, terrible - if to ponder, differently as terrible will not call an abyss between greatness of Life as gift and final negligibility of our vital problems. Meanwhile it is not obligatory at all that “maturity“ and “childishness“ contradicted or interfered with each other. They can perfectly get on and even to be shown at the same time when the feeling of pleasure of life serves as a background for any activity, including on - to the adult thoughtful and competent execution of work.
Fortunately, in Russia still there is a breed of the people who kept this feeling of pleasure in themselves. Doubly fortunately, that many of them live in an environment in which they do not feel like “odd fellows“ - it is norm there. In the province it is still possible to hear phrases of type: “Hear, Nyurka - that bought a holiday!“ Not vodka, not snack - namely “holiday“! In the “civilized“ world it is accepted to buy “vodka“ (or a karaoke that in this case not essentially) and to rejoice not just like that, and “upon“.
Try to pass down the street with a cheerful smile upon the face, and more tnan that - to be run skipping. On you will look as at the unusual phenomenon, such miracle - yudo. There can be also a sneer (“Here the moron!“), and suspicion - all unusual and unclear guards. In our culture decently to be gloomy and indecently cheerful, decently to be rude and to indecently tell pleasant things.
Dispassionateness and boredom are habitual, we are internally ready to them - whereas the kind word told without cause and therefore rather sincere causes protective reaction of rejection in many. It is difficult for us both “to squeeze out“ it, and to accept from another. Perhaps something from us is necessary to it? As if we are afraid that, having accepted, we will “be obliged“ also to give that the response to the kind relation will deprive us of freedom and will put into dependence on another.
It real one of the most serious problems of a modern civilization, and especially brightly this humanitarian crisis if not accident, is shown in the strange attitude of society towards “cranks“. Quite so we call people open, natural, endowed with happy ability to carry in itself a holiday and generously to share it with people around.