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To whom and how “to be cried in a vest“?

Today the businessman Sergey Petrov (the actor - Nikita Vysotsky), having gone bankrupt, on the advice of the friend finds to itself unusual work. He becomes “listener“. Having got to Fedulov` family, Petrov is forced to listen to all family members, many of which do not possess restraint and a step.

At the end of the day “listener“ feels lost and broken from the collected negative emotions which “involve“ him in whirlpool of events of this family more and more. To earn more, Petrov in a special notebook notes all swear words told in his address, and the bruises got during conversation with family members. But as a result all problems of Fedulov will be resolved, so to say, not without the aid of “listener“. The comedy movie of Vladimir Zaykin created in 2004 found the continuation in life over time.

So, in Moscow there are agencies under the name “Free ears“ . Announcements of similar contents are published in capital newspapers: “I am a listener. It is ready to listen to you at any time, perhaps, I will be able to help with the solution of problems. I am your friend (girlfriend), “vest“. In the Odessa press it is possible to read: “… I will try to understand you, I recognize your uniqueness. Services of the expert - the psychoanalyst are possible“. In the Urals it is possible “to be cried in too a vest“ for a moderate payment. The chief psychotherapist of Sverdlovsk region Mikhail Pertsel considers that their center “Free Ears“ enjoys wide popularity because to tell the stranger about the cares, mood it is simpler, than to close people.

Undoubtedly, well to what have relatives or dear people, friends ready to support at a difficult moment who can “be cried in a vest“. But not all have such opportunity, and then “listener“ will come to the rescue …. By the way, expression “to cry on shoulder“ (was born in Russia) comes from the fact that the complaining person, usually, of crying, drops to a shoulder (to a breast) that at whom looks for understanding or sympathy.

In Kazan there is too a service where it is possible to ask for the help and to tell of the trouble. And you will not be considered at the same time as the bore. Also such service as “the listener with delivery“ is possible when “listener“ agrees to meet the interlocutor, to listen to him and to help whenever possible. Now in Kazan 4 persons work as “listeners“. Two - the psychologist, two are people of other professions (education - the highest). The head of service Yulia Krikun as they work, answered the journalist`s question: “We adopted experience of the capital. Our “listeners“ are people delicate, polite. Conversation, as a rule, takes place not houses, and in the neutral territory“.

Free Ears phone differs from a free telephone hotline in the fact that the interlocutor on other end of a wire can spend for the complaining person to 2 - x hours and more. However, then he should pay services of “listener“ in a special tariff. In the different cities the different prices. So, almost everywhere hour of conversation costs from 400 rubles and above (to one thousand).

Of course, we got used to such attribute of ambulance as phone. “Talked, and at heart it became quieter“, - usually so we speak in these cases. By the way, abroad people feel sorry for the family and friends, they with collected “negative“ habitually go to the psychotherapist (the expert of this or that sphere of communication). The habit to follow council or the complaint to professionals did not gain steady character from us yet and still stays in a formation stage …

Historians consider that the first phone of communication (a telephone hotline - later name) appeared in London in 1958 (there is also other version - 1952 - 1953 of) . It was based by the priest Chad of Var who of the press learned about the increased number of suicides, especially among young people. He decided that these people are lonely and need the help. He placed the advertisement in the newspaper, specified a phone number and the invitation to talk in a minute, difficult for the person. However Americans assume that else in New - York in 1906 to year the priest Harry Warren used phone for communication with the people who got into a difficult situation.

Today telephone hotlines won the whole world. This innovation “came“ also to Moscow. And here in 1981 in the capital of Russia “exorcized“ the first telephone hotline. But actively these services began to create only at the beginning of 90 - x years of the last century. Now telephone hotlines work almost in all regions of the country, almost day and night. In Moscow, as well as in other large cities, tens of the centers of rendering psychological assistance to families and children are also open. Free of charge the unemployed, single mothers, large families, disabled people receive the help. And in the center it is possible to register as in reception to the expert, and to receive the answer by a telephone hotline.

In Altai and in Vologda went on the way of Swedes and created the psychological center only for men. Besides, in Vologda on the basis of medical and social institutions the centers of planning of a family, the help of a family and to children, the psychotherapeutic center etc. are open. And everywhere telephone hotlines work. As a rule, anonymity - one of the principles in work of service of psychological assistance on a telephone hotline.

Not so long ago there were telephone hotlines for children. Marina Gordeeva who heads Fund of support of the children who are in a difficult situation, addressing journalists on a press - conferences in May, 2010, told that about three hundred telephone hotlines for children in 60 regions of the country are already created. Annually phones “receive“ over 500 thousand children`s calls. The issue of creation of a uniform telephone hotline for children is now resolved.

Along with telephone hotlines also “hot lines“ were created by . They captured all services and departments just at once. As a rule, they appear in the period of seasonal events which do not do without excesses. “Hot lines“ get into gear and in connection with unforeseen circumstances. It can be the fires, earthquakes, accidents, acts of terrorism etc. of

By the way, and on the Internet there are always corners where to you will suggest “to be cried in a vest“. So, from you can accept any complaint and whenever possible punish the offender, being guided by acts which assert our, consumer rights. You can also participate in various discussions concerning development of society, to talk about corruption, to give examples of fraud and rudeness which, in your opinion, prevent people to live. And culture, art, youth … It is a pretext for discussion and clarification of the point of view together with experts too.

Everything can be in life. It is possible that shortly from the simple interlocutor (complainant) you turn into “listener“. And then you will see many problems absolutely in other light …