Why the child does not want to attend classes?
“My three-year-old daughter cannot concentrate long on one occupation. All last year we tried to go to dances. At first the daughter went with pleasure, directly ran there. But for few months lost all interest. It was necessary to force somewhere her, to frighten somewhere. The teacher there very exacting, sometimes even the severe woman - it is not always pleasant, but anyhow to something to teach the child? This year we will go to gymnastics - occupations will be more often and more intensively whether the daughter will be able to cope with such loadings? How it is better to behave when she refuses to go for occupation? There is no wish to grow up the idler.“ (A question to the psychologist)
If to close the beginning of the message where the age of the child is called, then the strong belief that it is about the child at least of younger school age arises. When the second-grader or the third-grader loses interest in business at a regular training to them, then it is worth being puzzled and think what happens to the child and as to help it.
But younger preschool children have a number of age features which do the described situation usual and easily explainable.
In - the first, this peculiar relation with time. The prospect not to learn to do something, to receive less some abilities means nothing to the three-year-old child. There is no future, it is not actual. Kids of this age to a large extent live in the present: the most important day - today. Every day for the baby is a small life. Therefore such kids can be upset when they learn that the event will take place not today, and the day after tomorrow.
In - the second, there are certain age tasks. The main task of age of a year to three is an acquaintance to physical properties of objects. Children with enthusiasm knock objects the friend about the friend, roll them on various surfaces, put them each other - similar manipulations can occupy the kid quite long time if he is not sick, is not tired and is not hungry. Obtaining skills interests the child so far as can improve and diversify his manipulation with objects. The child till three years is not able to study the abstract skills which are not attached to subject activity.
From three to six years the child is shipped in the period of role-playing games - it is time when he in the life studies everything playing. If, for example, to put the four-year-old child to learn English as teach school students - behind a school desk, carrying out exercises, then the spoiled relations with mother and disgust for foreign languages will become result of such training. But the same the chetyrekhletka will be with enthusiasm and with pleasure to learn language playing.
A few years ago the girl`s mother, the will of a case which appeared in the first class exactly in six years addressed for consultation. The first grader with interest and pleasure went to school, it liked new acquaintances, it was pleasant to collect beautiful notebooks, handles and rulers in a portfolio... But when business reached performance of exercises at a lesson or homework, was not to recognize the girl - the desire to study at school vanished, appear, irrevocably. The problem was resolved by what it was offered to play instead of performance of house exercises in school. The girl with enthusiasm carried out the same exercises which are wrapped up in game packing which refused to do flatly when they were just academic load.
In - the third, for the small child it is very important to be engaged with the person pleasant to it. Even pupils of elementary school with bigger readiness study at the teacher who is pleasant to them. The attitude of parents towards the teacher of the child leaves an essential mark on perception the child of the teacher. Small children well feel the emotional attitude of mother towards various people and are guided by it, meeting the person, new to themselves. Therefore if to mother the teacher is nice, then to the child most likely too it will be comfortable on these occupations.
Thus if the small child refuses to go to classes, it is important to understand why he does it that it occurs there and to modify a situation. But not to force the kid to happen in the place unpleasant to it.