Child and suicide. How to notice, understand and help? Part 2.
As the most frequent ways to which teenagers resort both at true and in demonstrative attempts of suicide, were considered poisoning at girls and hanging at boys earlier.
The latest foreign data indicate that, as at girls, and at boys more than 90% of attempts to die are made by poisoning as the least painful way.
( At once advice to parents: do not leave dangerous drugs in available places! do not forget that even harmless, in your opinion, substance can bring in a big dosage to death. If the tragedy already happened, the only thing that in your forces is to cause an emergency medical service and to try to wash out to the child a stomach).
The help which the children who found suicide tendencies need has to be carried out taking into account their reasons. Supervision during the whole dangerous time, resolution of conflict in a family and private life of the child is obligatory. In case of a hopeless illness or other real threat of life delay suicide the hope for a favorable outcome can. At neoconsciousness the help has to be directed by the child of the reasons of emergence of suicide intentions to that to clear an estimated boundary situation . It is necessary to remember that NOBODY will be able to HELP With ABSOLUTE LONELINESS in which often the child artificially locks himself to IT!
The effect of the help directly depends on correctness of understanding and an assessment of the events. Pay attention that suicide behavior of each child individually.
It is possible to allocate THREE MAIN TYPES suicide behavior at children.
1 - “ Avenger “. At this type the aggression directed to world around is transformed to the aggression directed to the child (autoaggression). Suitsident endures the negative attitude towards himself and decides to lose life for the purpose of CAUSING SUFFERINGS to the HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT. Pay attention that the self-assessment at such children very high, and suicide reflects an active, aggressive position of the child.
2 - “ Fugitive “. It is the type which is formed AT THREAT of the INTOLERABLE OR INEVITABLE PUNISHMENTS or situations fraught with moral and physical sufferings. Such attempt to leave from humiliation and pain is undertaken by the child with rather high self-assessment.
3 - “ Executioner “. the Type which is characterized by very low self-assessment. Children - “ executioners “ consider themselves guilty of something that, in their opinion, does not have forgiveness. Consider themselves by the pettiness unworthy whose that was attention, care and love. They DECIDE to EXECUTE THEMSELVES because only death are worthy, and consider that they only this way CAN WASH away GUILT.
Definition like suicide behavior is extremely important for rendering the adequate help to the child directly in house conditions.
Here the simplest means of first aid to the children who found suicide bents:
1 - “ avengers “ needs to be distracted from thoughts of death by ANY available methods. Also the " method is applied; deserved praise “ which can be and is not deserved, but turned into that by careful parents. It is desirable to focus attention of the child on his merits, MERITS and to do ethane at a time, and it is CONSTANT!
2 - “ fugitives “ should assure of the INACCURACY them idea of the future suffering. (Even the hackneyed phrase works: “ Yes nobody is going to punish you “ - and right there the ARGUMENT confirming your words).
3 - “ executioner “ needs to convince that it COULD not AFFECT a fatal event at all or worsen its course. At the same time it is worth explaining with deep arguments that event, idea of which is wrong, according to reality.
Pay attention! The volume of the information provided to the child in a situation, vitally dangerous to it, has to be exhaustive, and EXPLANATION LEVEL - AVAILABLE at its age.
Each parent needs to know that AT the FIRST SUSPICION on suicide intentions of the child needs to be CONSULTED at the children`s or teenage psychiatrist. It is possible also that the address to the expert should be repeated because children find a certain tendency to repetition of suicidal attempts and especially suicide demonstrations.
Fathers and mothers! Your help to the child on the importance has no equal! But do not forget that suitsidenta - unhealthy children, they need the qualified medical care!
DO NOT EXPERIMENT ON YOUR CHILDREN, DO NOT DEPRIVE OF THEM A OPPORTUNITY TO LIVE ALSO WITHOUT FEAR AND ALARM, TO BREATHE THE FULL BREAST!
BE ATTENTIVE TO WHAT HAPPENS TO OUR CHILDREN - THE MOST VALUABLE THAT EXISTS!