What to do if the child does not want to put on? It is sometimes difficult to present
that raskapriznichavsheesya, the monster which is not wishing to put on and is a remarkable big-eyed miracle which you admired only ten minutes ago. At the same time it is worth to remember that the words “ miracle “ and “ monster “ - related, coming from one root.
To teach the three-year-old child readily or even independently to put on and undress - quite feasible and solvable task demanding, however, forces, the imagination and patience. Here it is possible to move in several ways.
In - the first, it is possible to release completely a situation, sometime the child will surely learn to put on independently, by the beginning of school training absolutely precisely.
In - the second , it is possible to shout at the child (or even to splash) at each oversight. This method quickly enough will yield the fruits because sensation of fear is capable to motivate the child easily. The child quickly will become trained. Here objections are possible: the child learns to put on is the most important, at the same time it is unimportant in what way it is reached.
In - the third , it is possible to show a little imagination and to approach creatively training process.
The kid already absolutely precisely is able to undress quickly. Says about it that he quickly undressed when he wanted in a toilet. Thus, the child can perform the required operation, but only when he very much wants or in urgent cases.
It is quite possible that the child is attracted by prospects of interesting walk or a campaign on a visit, but process of clothing seems so unpleasant that the kid is ready to offer attractive actions if only only to avoid tiresome clothing. In this case it is necessary to make interesting actually clothing process. It is possible to make it so:
1. Play a hide-and-seek. Rejoice when naughty eyes look out of a mouth: “ Where our kid? Yes here it! “.
2. Present the handle in the form of the train which comes into the tunnel: “ Tu - that is that! “. The cam becomes an engine.
3. Also the cam can become the little mouse who whisked in the mink.
4. Play in “ disseminated from Basseynaya Street “: Where to put on socks? Probably, on handles. Is not present? And what handles is put on? Mittens? And socks, probably, on ears? No. How to understand? Who will help? What to put on at first: shorts and tights?
5. At the initial stage of training in clothing it is possible to halve work. Mother puts on shorts legs, the child pulls them on buttocks. Mother passes a head throughout a mouth and inserts handles into sleeves, and the kid straightens a jacket on a tummy.
6. Do not miss an opportunity to be trained on dolls and hares. Here it is possible to pronounce sequence and logic of clothing.
7. For training in independent clothing it is necessary to take clothes which are pleasant to the child. You at the same time have to have a quantity of free time: clothing lessons cannot be conducted in a hurry at all.
Such games will not spoil the kid, they will help to create a positive spirit on clothing. In general, for the child - the preschool child game is a primary activity. Thanks to game the child develops, learns the world, receives new impressions. Perhaps, your words: “ Go, I will dress you " now; start new interesting game for the child. Now mother will speak so funny thin broken voice, then will become even more cheerful - mother will begin to chase me! Therefore, now you should play, in representation of the child, by his rules. Games which help to diversify clothing process allow to offer the child own rules in packing, interesting to the kid.
After the child will readily begin to play by your rules: to put on quickly while you offer it to it, it is possible to talk to it about a garden. It will be necessary then if the situation is not corrected independently. Usually during one and a half - two weeks the child gets used to what to put on - it is interesting, and does not hark back to behavior. Ubeganiye from mother instead of putting on, does not seem such attractive any more.
So if the situation in a garden remains so critical (it is critical because there should not be a child without walk, as well as other children should not take a steam bath while someone one is capricious), it should be corrected separately. For this purpose it is necessary to come a bit earlier, it is desirable before children gather for after-dinner walk. Bringing together the child, suggest it to observe how other children who quicker who more slowly put on. Here it is very important not to break on comparisons: “ Look what Katya the good fellow, kolgotochka already itself puts on! Not that you at me! “. Bring the child to thought that who puts on quicker, that helps the tutor who more things a plot, that helped better. If all children are assistants to the tutor, then it will much longer be possible to walk. Let your tone at the same time will be tender and benevolent: you read not lecture - you help the child to become an assistant, to become more adult and independent. Information obtained in quiet conversation is acquired by the child much better, than in the scandal made by the parent from powerlessness.
The child will estimate such quiet talk as equals and, having become more senior, will remember them with gratitude.