What it is necessary for us for happiness?
What actually is necessary for the person for happiness? The question is rhetorical. Already there are a lot of centuries concerning all people of our planet. Give, really, we will consider that it is necessary for us for happiness and what so is not enough for us in our everyday life?
Usually on the matter of the man, and recently the increasing number of women declare that for entire happiness they lack money.
Shortage of love and understanding from the family is on the second place, here it is possible to carry as not developed relations with the partner, and disagreements of spouses, fathers and children, colleagues and friends.
On the third and for certain not last place there is a career. “ Here if I was given increase, and I became - the head of department, the bank manager, the editor of the magazine etc. “ reflects sitting at a desktop of people. But having received the expected increase, the ambition drives it further to new heights. The five-minute satisfaction is replaced by new race behind advance.
Students dream to close somewhat quicker session without “ tails “. And as long as possible to take a walk, without taking any intermediate and rating tests. And professorsko - the teaching structure of institute only also dreams of when at last these examinations begin.
Our grandmothers and grandfathers dream of times which left. Here if they were given one more chance to live life anew, they would use it to the full extent. They would turn mountains, and everything would be not so awful as now, and the youth would not grow in such dreadful conditions.
Young mothers and fathers dream of when their child at last grows up and will become a source of pleasure and inspiration. He or she for certain will carry out all not achieved dream and ideas of the parents, will be more successful and more successful. He or she will get the monasteries of glory which did not get to them.
The English scientists in this respect opened the formula of happiness. On the basis of answers to questions they removed the following formula:
Happiness = P+ (5khe)+ (3khn)
Where P means
A in principle what is it - happiness?
This such ephemeral feeling which cannot fully be felt, having it. Only having lost it, it is possible to understand to what degree you were happy.
Only someone from our relatives should get sick or the family, to hear news that to someone there was a misfortune as on heart cats with long claws begin to scrape. Not to mention that in life there are not only meetings, but also partings. Sometimes some of them will painfully wound our soul, leaving an indelible mark. Leaving, sometimes we leave a part of near this person, and any more never we become former. More precisely, we look as well as earlier, we think and we reflect also, but we here love already not so. There is no that feeling of serenity any more. Yes, we love, but already cautiously, with caution back, comparing and reinterpreting all events, acts, words and other.
“ Stop a moment, you it is fine! “. Here about what, probably, we forget. Lack of news is not boredom, and to what we, probably, have to rejoice. Not always news promise us pleasure. Very often it is alarm, a stress, a nervous tension. And when any problem is solved, and freight of responsibility for it falls down from our shoulders, all of us feel sense of relief. What it is possible to compare to that feeling which mother to whom say that her child is incurably sick has? And when the made diagnosis is wrong? It unless can be compared to something? How it is possible to describe all scale of the had feelings?
So, a little advice to the one who wants to become happy:
1. You love yourself. Yes, sounds a little selfishly, but, without loving itself, it is impossible to fall in love with another.
2. Enjoy what you have and you receive. For example, that flow of information which you obtain now, sitting at the computer monitor.
3. Know what it is only better to eat you you. Of course, someone can know better you English, ride the scooter, play chess. But there is no that personality who incorporated all your qualities. Look around, look who is better than you?
4. Do favorite thing. For someone this cross stitching, and for someone Shakespeare`s reading in the original. Not so important, than you will be engaged, the main thing that it strongly was pleasant to you.
5. Release the problems. If to keep thinking only of them, not to solve them. Release for the period of thought of what disturbs you. They will return, but already with options of their possible permission. You cannot solve them because you do not see them from outside. You stand in “ epicenter “ events! Step aside, look at all events eyes of the detached onlooker. Only this way you will manage to make the right decision. Be happy
, live in that interval of time which was given you from above. Rejoice to every moment. Also you should not dream of impracticable. Though dreams and a flight of fancy - it is very good too. But about it next time …