Why children lie?
the Truth and lie are closely bound in our life. Usually we, adults, perfectly realize why we distort or we suppress the true situation. And children? What induces them to think out naive unlikely stories which to expose sometimes does not represent any work?
Kids do not lie. Approximately to four-year age they do not distinguish the concepts " at all; lie “ and “ truth “ any statement is perceived for a pure coin, done and tell everything that want. For achievement of the purposes they directly express the desires and emotions - cry or make hysterical scandals if parents ignore their inquiries.
From the beginning of formation of figurative thinking the picture changes. The period " begins; white “ lie. At this stage a perversion of truth - quite natural phenomenon. Children dream, tell different tales, are confused and cannot separate the truth from fiction, have wishful thinking. It is not necessary to punish the child for imaginations. On the contrary, it should be encouraged and given any opportunities for development of creative thinking.
Becomes realized lie approximately at ten-year age, with the advent of ability to a reflection. But the period of children`s fictions can drag on if the child has for this purpose a need. It draws with masterly lies attention to itself(himself) better to seem and to deserve the authority among age-mates.
Happens, the child so is fond of lies that practically does not tell the truth. It is easier to live in the invented world to it, than in real. The reason is that such children lack understanding and sympathy, age-mates do not accept them in the circle.
Aggressive children usually lie less, than obedient good children. Aggression manifestation - direct (fights) or verbal (abuse) - allows, on the one hand, “ to exhaust “ with another - lifts authority of an aggressor on the teenage environment.
Girls are more peaceful, than boys, are more emotional, irrational and sensitive. Therefore the lie, saving for image, meets in their environment considerably more often.
Understanding of lie per se, the fact that it is bad usually causes the specific external reaction allowing to understand easily that the child deceives in children. For example, involuntary attempt to cover a mouth with a hand, excitement and a flush on cheeks, frequent blinking, unwillingness to look in the face, or, on the contrary, provocatively “ honest “ look. The child feels that he is guilty, is afraid of exposure. That the lie sounded more convincingly, he begins to be at loss for words, to say them uncertainly, with unusual intonation. Who knows “ child “ better than parents? Pay attention to nuances of the speech, behavior, and everything will fall into place.
Psychologists do not advise to punish the little liar. Analyse motivation of lie. Perhaps you are guilty? Perhaps, your requirements are superfluous, and lie - natural children`s attempt to facilitate the life?
Let know to the child that in lie there is no need that you love him, accept and support in any situation. If and to abuse, then not the child, and his acts. Also do not forget to praise for sincerity. That even in a difficult situation the son or the daughter found forces everything honestly and frankly to tell parents.