How raise children in Japan? Preschool children. When I told
in the first article about education of children in Japan, I began with the story about kids about one year. And how many was remarks that supposedly there all is possible for children till five years. The matter is that it is just a subject for separate article in which about it and the speech will go. How kids grow in the Land of the rising sun?
Really, the traditional educational system allows the child all before achievement by him of five - six years. Yes, he can kick mother with legs in shop that bought the pleasant toy, to throw sand into eyes of the companion, playing with it in a sandbox, to climb legs on a seat in the subway, to use matches, lighting a plate. Nobody will forbid it to it and nobody will be surprised to such behavior, nobody will punish. But mother will look with disapproval and will surely tell something the " type; to me it is painful “ “ dangerously “ “ hotly “.
That is the child has to understand correctness or abnormality of the acts, proceeding from own experience, having estimated consequences of the act, but not through reproaches and punishments. And the main factor of education is the personal example of mother.
Because the father practically does not take part in education of children, and spends time with them only at the weekend (at best), children become attached to mother with an incredible force and become dependent on it. She will never raise the voice, will not raise a hand, will not spank and will not read lecture. But if the child does not obey, then in this respect they have methods. For example, mother begins to tease the child, saying that he such is not necessary to her and can be, they with the father will think whether not to exchange them children with the neigbour who has such remarkable son. The child in that case, you want - you do not want, begins to estimate correctness of the acts and to improve if only mother did not execute conceived.
In spite of the fact that in Japan there are preschool institutions - kindergartens and a day nursery in which are engaged in education and education of children, all - is considered to be that good mother herself is engaged in the child. And to arrange the kid in a garden becomes possible only if both parents work more than four hours a day. Why mother cannot do household chores while the child is in a garden, remains unclear. Especially as the educational system of children in preschool institutions is rather harmonious for their society.
So, for example, children learn to communicate with peers, develop attention on daily classes during walk in vicinities, are accustomed to corporal purity, are engaged with tutors in development of the speech, small motility which will be in the future necessary for accurate and correct writing of hieroglyphs. There are engaged with children, develop them, learn, bring up. Groups are small, on average on 8 people. The players of group are changed each half a year that the child who could not find a common language with peers or the tutor could rehabilitate himself in other structure. And the one to whom it was good earlier changed scenery and tried to estimate the abilities and opportunities in new collective.
The most popular occupations are: sport, group games and choral singing. At the same time Japanese consider it unnecessary to allocate from group of the leader, they teach children to communication only in collective, without going beyond its framework. Moreover, children are never compared and do not carry out between them competitions, not praised and do not give a mark. That is, if the child best of all reads, then he is not a good fellow, and such as all. And the one who reads most worse does not become worse than others, and just he needs to be engaged more.
Nevertheless, by six years the child gets under the set of infinite rules and bans. And from it not to get to anywhere, it is necessary to adapt. Life is a game by rules, the one who does not observe them, “ loses face “ and for the Japanese there is nothing postydny. Therefore rules should be followed.