What tells a look about?
of Supervision of psychologists show that at personal contacts partners in communication are not capable to look at each other constantly, and only no more than 60% of the general time of conversation. However, time of visual contact can go beyond these limits in two cases: at lovers and at aggressive-minded people. Therefore if the unfamiliar person long also stares at you, the look will tell him to you about the hidden aggression.
Duration of visual contact depends on distance between interlocutors. Than it is more than a distance, especially long contacts of eyes are possible between them. Therefore communication will be more effective if partners sit on different sides of a table, in this case increase in distance between partners will be compensated by increase in duration of contact of eyes.
Women look at those who to them are nice and men longer - on those who sympathize with them. Women in general more often than men use a direct look, and therefore they less men are inclined to perceive a stare as threat, even on the contrary, the woman considers a direct look as expression of interest and desire to come into contact. Though, at all not all direct views of men of the woman perceive favourably, a lot of things depend also on the man.
It is not necessary to think that the direct look is a sign of honesty and openness. Well trained liars are able to fix a look in the face of the interlocutor in addition still try to control the hands, without allowing them to approach the person. However if the liar who is not trained for example the child, then him it is easy to learn lies, hands of the liar and reach for the person, block a mouth and a nose, eyes run on the parties.
The psychologist S. Stepanov writes:
“ Expansion of pupils testifies to intensity of feelings. When the person with special attention and interest perceives a certain incentive, all its organism becomes more active. In particular, pupils increase - it is result of excitement of sympathetic nervous system. It is clear, that when the lover looks at the darling, he looks for the evidence of excitement and interest in her eyes. Respectively, also its own pupils " extend;.
Narrowing and expansion of pupils does not submit to consciousness and therefore their reaction very accurately shows interest of the partner in you. It is possible to operate a look, pupils - no. Expansion of pupils shows strengthening of interest in you, will tell their narrowing about hostility. However the similar phenomena need to be observed in dynamics because the size of a pupil depends also on illumination. At a bright sun pupils at the person narrow, in the dark room pupils extend.
The theory of neurolinguistic programming (NLP) claims that it is possible to recognize by the movement of eyes of the interlocutor, what images now in consciousness of the person and what he is busy now with - thinks out or remembers.
If the partner watches on the left up or just up (on the relation, certainly, to itself(himself), but not to the observer) - it is shipped in visual memoirs. Such look can be observed at the person answering a question: “ How the hundred-ruble banknote looks? “.
The look to the right up gives visual designing. The person tries to present what he never saw. For example, try to present the girlfriend in the astronaut`s space suit.
A look on the left aside - acoustical memoirs. For example, remember grand piano sounds.
If the look is sent to to the right aside - is a sign of acoustical designing. For example, present how aliens talk?
A look on the left down - internal conversation with.
the Look to the right down or just down gives kinestetichesky representations. For example, emotional and tactile. Exactly there your look when you remember the feelings from a soft warm bed in which you lay is directed.
For lefthanders the picture is completely opposite.
Ability easy and imperceptibly to watch eyes of the interlocutor, and also ability to analyze results of supervision will give you invaluable help both in daily talk, and in case of important business conversation.