What is the happy child and how to help it to become happy?
Unfortunately, most often at parents and at children are a little different ideas of happiness. Parents sometimes consider that if the child is tasty fed, warmly dressed and received as a gift on birthday a new jacket - that he is happy. It is actually not so easy to define, the child is happy or not.
Psychologists have such definitions of the happy child:
- ability to the deep relations with other people
- ability to have various feelings
- - can understand 3,5 years feelings of others and express the understanding
- 4,5 years - can see themselves from outside and sketch the feelings
: the happy child is such child who:
- knows that it is loved (irrespective of perfect offense)
- feels the security
- participates in “ adult affairs “
- feels the uniqueness
- feels encouragement from parents in overcoming of unfamiliar situations
- is estimated by collective
Parents surely have to help the child to become happy. What for this purpose is necessary?
You love the child
If you love the child it what it is - that your child will be happy. If any part of his personality causes in you irritation - it will just hide it - and therefore will not be completely happy, constantly hiding some line of the character. Be always on its party.
Help the child to cope with overcoming
Children very much like to achieve result - it is necessary to help the child to set the object and to achieve it. At the same time, if to leave it one to cope with difficulties - he will grow up diffident. The child with pleasure will watch how the adult copes with something - and to imitate. The ideal option is a joint activity, the more attention will be received by the child, the more, respectively, examples for imitation, the more happily he will feel.
Whether encourage hobby
you when you were so keen last time on something that did not notice anything around Remember? Small children are able it as nobody else. When they are keen on game, they do not remember more anything. From parents they need to give the chance to steep in hobby only.
The child becomes more senior, the it is more than restrictions in his life which are not allowing it to be given to hobby - the mode, unloved occupations, do not forget
imposed by adults … also that your ambitions and hobby of the child are not same. You should not give the child on capoeira only because it is fashionable. Try to give it the chance to be oneself and ego-trip only that to it it is rather close. If the child is keen on something and wants to share with you - accept it with pleasure, share with him his hobby. It is just ideal if you have a hobby and you will manage “ to infect “ to them the child, for example, game in chess or an embroidery. Believe, then at you fine, thin connection will be established with your child.
Risk of novelty
Each child needs new impressions and feelings. Children behave in this case differently. One every time strives to investigate the unfamiliar territory, and another feels clear fears. If your child is shy - help him, unostentatiously advancing in the direction of something new.
A big mistake of parents - to brand the careful child the words “ coward “ “ constraining “ etc. the Child can fearlessly climb up a tree and hesitate of people. And can be sociable, but be afraid to sweep on a pony. Tell that it happens to all and it is normal. You have to understand in what a problem - the child needs your support.
does not need to protect the child from troubles it is total. Then it will lack firmness in difficult life situations later. Here reasonable support is necessary - it is necessary to find golden mean between unconditional control and a situation when the child is left with problems alone. At the same time to feelings of the child it is necessary treats at all not worse, than feelings of the adult. By no means it is not less his suffering, and, maybe, more. Do not laugh at the child. You consider that it will help it to treat with laughter to the problems? To achieve they are laugh at yourself and the problems.
Let your children will be happy!