How to control the fear? Part I - I understand emergence of
Ya that on this subject very many articles are written already. But I think, we will not repeat if we look at fear mechanisms a little in other foreshortening: from the point of view of human physiology and the general theory of development of life on Earth. Let`s take theories of reflexes of Pavlov and Sechenov, theories of behavior of Watson and Wolpe nearby lying, relatives by results of the theory of the identity of Fromm and Adler, we will mix all this in a small heap and we will begin...
The fear is a mechanism of adaptation. Any live organism adapts to environment, at least in small degree using danger signals. The person, having developed from the kromanyonets using this mechanism very often and now continues to use it quite creatively. The innate sense of self-preservation does not allow us to make acts, with big degree of probability the threatening lives or to health, does not allow to undergo or subject itself to real danger. To rush under the train, to cut off to itself a hand, to kill similar (and just to kill) does not give us fear.
Certainly, the fear understood as an unconditioned reflex is useful. Otherwise it is possible to call this reflex a survival instinct, or fear biological. Refer those which can be anyway explained from the point of view of danger to existence of a live organism to biological fears: fears of pain and loneliness, uncertainty and uncertainty, fear of death. It - “ natural “ alarms, sledstvuyushchy to natural laws of a survival in our world. Violation of the natural law guarantees the violator`s not survival.
Many moral restrictions, rules and conditions of behavior grow at from biological bases of fear. Do not kill. Treat others as you want that treated you. Do not judge and do not judge you will be. Do not create an idol.
But also fears social are: the conditioned reflexes acquired by us at coexistence with other people. They are part of that education which we receive from teachers and parents, and part of those rules and conventions which impregnated the social environment. Treat them: fear of criticism and the administration, fears to be rejected or to come under the spotlight, fear to seem defective, fear to make a claim, fear not to manage to refuse the requirement, fear to tell “ is not present “ - and to them similar.
And if biological fears are adaptive and that are useful to a survival of both the specific person, and all sort, then the social, acquired fears cause unreasonable feeling of alarm and often conduct to phobias, neurosises, a depression - that is, are obviously harmful. Here - that we also have to be able to get rid of them.
Sources and their metamorphoses .
1. Abstract thinking . Social fears are directly connected by
with unique ability of the person to forecasting and consideration of options. The situation which permission options we cannot precisely define forces us to think out them independently. All new, unexpected and unusual forces us to be afraid: it is unknown what it consequences bears. And, naturally, among equiprobable options negative have bigger weight - as their organism seeks to work and eliminate first of all. Here also leaves so that any unknown and uncertain generates at us in soul of alarm and fear. And if the situation which outcome is not clear arises and disturbs us rather often, on it the conditioned reflex - fear is formed.
Any fear such begins with the words “ And that, if... “ or “ And suddenly... “. And suddenly the icicle will fall to me from a roof? And suddenly I will be crushed by the car? And what if that person wants to rob me? And suddenly it will refuse to me? And what if I do not manage to make it till tomorrow?
the Situation which was really threatening to us with danger could arise only once, or at all not arise, and to be inspired by other people. And after to imagine it few times enough - and everything, it is ready. We are afraid of it. It is possible to call such difficult situation the solved problem. Problems which we cannot solve, at present and with these resources is a main source of fear. “ It is impossible to solve - means, it is necessary to prevent, so, to avoid, so, to be afraid “ - so works at collision with these problems reason.
2. Aspiration to generalize .
the Solved problems have property to change, flowing in problems not solvable, but more general plan. They “ irradiate “. For example, on the mechanism of a conditioned reflex the fear of pain can cause fear of strict parents, and then the fear of parents turns into fear of the administration and criticism.
Or, for example, the crane leaks in the house. The wife of times speaks to the husband, another speaks, the third, and then begins to convince everyone: “ Oh, my husband is such problem, such problem, nothing at him will be interrogated “. The problem of the crane flowed in the husband`s problem. What`s next? Farther the wife if does not have a heart-to-heart talk, perhaps, will be afraid even to ask the husband about something: it became for it the solved problem. The fact that actually a problem was the current crane somehow was successfully forgotten. And here the social fear to make a claim - remained.
3. Social induction .
One more reason of growth of the solved problem - opinion of an environment, public moods. We are beings social and we perceive the feelings arising at others. Their fear is transferred to us too, inevitably transferred, and the power pendulum - crowd - begins to influence thoughts of each certain person. “ All are afraid - and I am afraid. All ran - and I ran “ .
“ All have problem husbands - and at me it is not better “. Inductive fears advertizing offices, mass media, state agencies - almost all structures which have an opportunity in large quantities to influence people and to benefit from this skillfully use
. It is one of the strongest means of manipulation with consciousness: it is very easy to operate the scared people.
As to eradicate the fears and not to give in to management from outside?
we will talk About it in the second part of article.