How to join in children`s game?
“ From what age the child can occupy himself? At our neighbors the one-and-a-half-year-old son can already play one on one or one and a half hours. And our two-year-old girl does not want to play independently at all. I still poorly - can poorly work with it, but our father just boils, he cannot quietly communicate with it, it is impossible to him though very much loves the daughter. We need or to teach to play the daughter one, or the father to teach to interact with her. The daughter it is not simple to play wants, she wants that game went as she solved … Both become hysterical, I interfere, too I break. I do not know even what with these childish sports to do to me... “ Playing
, the child, on the one hand, wants to be closer to the adult with whom interacts. On the other hand, the kid in these games often with pleasure accepts the help of the adult, but does not suffer instructions from it. Game of the child is his research, opening, experiment. If you persistently explain to the child what this or that toy is intended for, or to show how it is necessary to do correctly something, or to hurry with answers on plainly yet the questions which are not formulated by him, all of you will spoil.
Art of inclusion in children`s game consists in granting to the child to be the leader in this game. For the adult stay in such subordinate only supporting positions can become serious test. However the result in the form of the happy, cheerful kid costs ongoing efforts.
It is possible to support the child in his games in the different ways. It is possible to help the child, but only to the known limits. There is a number of cases which the child cannot make owing to insufficient development of thin motility, physical weakness or low growth yet. For example, at the child it is impossible to build the second floor of a lodge of cubes, all of them time fall and pull down quite steady first floor. The child with pleasure will accept your help in balancing of the second floor, but will be seriously indignant if you decide to occupy the turned-out mansion animals, about it the arrangement was not.
There are games which one cannot play. How to play at hide-and-seek if nobody looks for you? How to play a game of tag if nobody for you runs? Often the child cannot persuade the adult to play with him in any way. Sometimes the child also does not wait already that the adult will agree with him to play. Then the request to play itself becomes a certain sort game, interaction which is valuable even in itself, irrespectively games which either will be, or is not present, and communication about it already is. “ Mother or the father with me discuss the unwillingness with me to play “.
When the adult, at last, agrees: “ Yes, now we with you will a little play “ - the child instead of deriving pleasure from game process, with melancholy constantly thinks when it ends a little bit?
Therefore it is very important that at least sometimes the child heard the offer to play or a request to accept it in game from the adult. It will mean to the child that not only he wants to play with the adult, but also the adult has such desire. Therefore, there is no need to exhaust and exasperate parents with requests simply to check, they want to play or not. “ If ask for my game - means, they like to play with me, so and too love me “.
The child gains new skills and abilities, thanks to continuous repetition. Therefore it is not necessary to be afraid that the same game will quickly bore the child. It`s not true. Thanks to this feature of perception and learning, small children very much love cyclic games and fairy tales with a cyclic plot. Remember fairy tales “ Kolobok “ “ Turnip “ “ Teremok “ - the same action happens in these fairy tales repeatedly, to the most insignificant variations.
It is still difficult to two-year-old child to play with other children, for him it is problematic to maintain partnership with kids, but to play near them, for certain, will give him great pleasure. Therefore it is important to parent to be able to support their company. Younger preschool children - such age when children still cannot be kept provided in hope that they will understand and will be able to play by rules. They find these skills a bit later, having become the senior preschool children, to years to five.