What does crisis prepare for you? Myths about age crises at adults of
In translation from Greek crisis - “the decision, a turning point“. And so, different researchers bring the periodization of these most turning points into lives of people. I was not too lazy and aggregated everything, it turned out that nearly every year the person can have a crisis. Claims Gayle`s Shikh that they happen time in seven years, you will find in textbooks of psychology:
newborn (1 - 10 days);
chest age (10 days - 1 year);
early childhood (1 - 3 years);
first childhood (4 - 7 years);
second childhood (8 - 12 years);
teenage age (13 - 16 years);
youthful age (17 - 21 year);
mature age (first period: 22 - 35 years - men, 21 - 35 years - women;
second period: 36 - 60 years - men, 36 - 55 years - women);
advanced age (61 - 74 years - men, 56 - 74 years - women);
senile age (75 - 90 years - men and women);
long-livers (90 years are also more senior).
The most interesting that can be proved every period by either change of a social environment, or physiological development, and can - certain events: the marriage, divorce, the child`s birth, dismissal from work, etc. as
Moreover if each person attentively looks at the life, then will surely find crises, will insist on objectivity of their emergence and to explain the failures with turning points in life.
Let`s look on the other hand and from far away.
In primitive society about crises did not know. The main task was to survive, breed and live. Brought from hunting of a mammoth - well, we eat month. Returned without production what - crisis? No, search of food. There is no exit, there is no time to worry, the law is simple, found production - survived, did not find - died. What crisis?
Interestingly, Socrates, Aristotle, Seneca, Epiktet, had age crises? They then were not thought up yet therefore was not. Difficulties were, difficult life situations happened too - they tempered will and strengthened spirit.
And here at there is nobody Ivan Ivanovich in 40 years crisis can happen. Why? So he already about it foreknows and is theoretically prepared that at this age something like that has to occur surely. Especially as remembers how it was in 30. I know this Ivan Ivanovich - he is an idler. He does not know why lives in what sense of its existence. Wakes up in the morning, eats sandwich, goes to work. There it is boring, houses could not be done too. There comes evening - fell asleep. There is an assumption that this character fell asleep long ago, he does not live - sleeps. As the flower in ice-holes, moves from one edge to another and still some time does not sink. There is wind and small cold waves, it becomes uncomfortable - it is crisis, then everything calms down and drift continues.
Such character is familiar to you?
And in the nature there are crises? For example, at a birch, a hamster, a bear? Or only the homo sapiens guessed to himself them to think up?
But you only try to take away this myth from the person who is sincerely suffering from crisis. You will be accused of callousness, misunderstanding and ignorance as all educated people know - crisis of age is! And the person, him worrying, maybe, for example not to take out garbage, on house to raise the voice, to do nonsenses, to give up work, diligent to represent the sad person, even seriously to ache as proof of the validity of the endured crisis. Now there is to all an explanation, and council is not attractive to be engaged in business at all. In suffering there are a lot of secondary benefits; in creation, work, development there are a lot of difficulties. Guess what will be chosen by the idler? Correctly, its choice - crisis of age, and the more often, the better.
The Nobel laureate Albert Schweitzer slept for three hours, he lowered legs in cold water to cheer up as considered that he has to work to finish the work “Awe of Life“, and also to continue to treat an uncountable great number of sick Africans whose life depended on Albert Schweitzer. To it had no time for age crises, he knew the mission, loved the business, and perceived difficulties as the natural phenomenon accompanying bright and interesting life. And you are how are you getting on?
the Parable about crisis and meaning of life
Once on the way home the wise man met the person who was so grieved that, bypassing on the way of the wise man, incidentally shouldered it. That, in turn, quietly and politely asked it a question:
- Tell, the respectable person why you are so sad what you notice nothing on the way?
- I Apologize, - the person told, without reducing a step, - I am sad because I have an age crisis, I lost meaning of life and I worry, I cannot do anything and I will look for until washing the objectives is achieved.
- Well, - the wise Teacher said, - I heard about one person at whom crises happened often, and it could not find meaning of life too.
- I Hope, the truth opened to it? - the impatient fellow traveler was curious.
- Yes, he died clarified, having managed to whisper to those who were near what understood, only dying, the wise man answered.
- And what it told?
- It told that the meaning of life is the choice …
- Well, thank you for conversation, - the person told, bowed to the wise man and almost continued by run the way.
- … the choice: or to live without crises, or to spend all life for experiences and searches of this sense, - the wise man finished, but his words were heard already in emptiness. The casual fellow traveler was already too far.
It hurried, it has a crisis.