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How to build the relations that was not excruciatingly painful?

Questions of relationship of floors always concerned mankind. How many it was already broken copies about this indestructible block. And how many it will be still broken? Why we do not understand each other? Why we quarrel with the halves? We disperse, run up though it seemed, only yesterday the relations were ideal. We begin to hate each other from - for some trifles, and everything could develop absolutely differently. Really it is so difficult, to understand the person who near you?

It: … Here now you sit, having hidden in a corner, and you cry, you fight back tears of offense and rage. You try to cause feeling of hatred to it. Someone in you shouts: “It is not worthy you, it always used you!“ The second voice appears then: “So it is also necessary to you, itself is guilty!“ Voices intertwine inside, begin to argue among themselves, already in itself. They do not pay attention to your tears. They are you, and it seems already and not you …

It: … The pile easily turns over, the throat burns, but you do not feel, pour one more. Though what sense to pour? It is possible to drink directly from a throat. Someone speaks nearby: “All right, forget it! It is rubbish, you will find to yourself another“. There are no forces any more to wave a hand towards a voice, the bottle blurs, legs do not hold, some words sound, and inside it is empty and is very silent …

Where a side between love and hatred? Who dared to draw it and to divide us, having put from the different parties? Quarrel is always senseless, is always identical, it is terrible to observe how events are developed in itself. You know the scenario, but you as if a doll which direct. Not to stop, not to turn …

Cannot be told who is guilty. We quarrel, it is boring for us to live quietly. Specially we create situations for quarrels. It is surprising that during quarrel we actually hear only ourselves! We splash out anger which we save inside. And the second person allows us it to do! Yes, resolves. Quarrel is a performance of two actors. And everyone plays a major role, but does not understand it! Not I am anyway guilty, but another!

… As I was got by its cavils! It is dissatisfied all the time! Wants attention to himself as I was tired …

… He does not pay attention to me at all, perhaps, today sex will not be …

We so appreciate ourselves, so we value ourselves that we even have no thought that other person also appreciates himself. We are always offended on the fact that another does not see in us what is seen by ourselves.

We look at the world and at others through a prism of own beliefs and scenarios, and we do not know that others have the world too. And this world should not spin around us at all.

… - You love me? (I know that I am not present!)

- I love. (Again begins!)

- And why you so seldom tell it to me? (Precisely found to itself another!)

- Expensive do not begin! (Began!) …

Everyone receives that he wants. We disperse because we are tired to be correct, we do not want to look for new decisions. We get used to each other, and we should not build the relations any more. We tried to obtain reciprocity and when achieved, it seems that it is not necessary to make efforts any more. And the love is a flower which both have to water, otherwise he dies.

… - You love me?

- It is most on light! (Kisses.)

- And why you so seldom tell it to me? (Smiles.)

- I lack words to express as is strong! And I am afraid to be banal. Forgive.

- And you forgive me …