How and when food dependence is formed? Part 1
at least ten of forms of dependences are defined Today. All of them are subdivided into two big groups:
1. Chemical - when the person depends on substance which ceases to be produced by its organism is alcoholic and narco - dependences.
2. The emotional circle of dependences - when by means of a certain behavior, a kind of activity, occupation of people fills emotional shortages.
Food dependence belongs to an emotional circle and differs from any other only in one - we can live all life without tobacco - drugs - alcohol - gamblings … Even without close relations it is possible to try - to avoid love dependence. But without food - hardly … At most - days we will stretch forty.
And here and the main difficulty … How and when absorption of proteins, fats, carbohydrates, normal, necessary for life, and the pleasure accompanying this process is transformed by
to draft, dependence, slavery?
Everything begins in absolutely early childhood... If the child is in close corporal and emotional contact with mother besides those moments when she feeds him - i.e. sing lullabies to him, take on hands, coo with it, and in series of these strokings also feed on his requirement, - the food remains to one of contact elements with the loving, protecting world which center (at least to two-year age) is mother.
If mother has a postnatal depression, other circumstances alienating it from the baby at it there can be an unconscious communication: it is possible to receive emotional attention and love only through food - any mother of the child feeds, and feeding becomes the central figure of their communication … There is a feeling that only meal guarantees corporal and emotional proximity with favourite object.
I want to explain about unconscious. Long time was considered that the person is presented by the consciousness, and all he (she) thinks of, feels, suffers, dreams, is in one layer which is directly connected with reality. Freud is the father of psychoanalysis - found (and proved the opening) that the consciousness is a top of an iceberg of human mentality, and underwater part - unconscious in which all vital impressions and experiences collect. And that the most improbable - in this big underwater world is not present time - what happened in the deep childhood, can injure and wound into the old age!
How to you such hypothesis of origin of food passion? It can be one of many backs of your today`s picture. To understand as far as it corresponds to you, it is necessary to begin to concentrate on itself, to analyze the feelings - experiences … To realize the daily elections … You know yourself best of all.
We continue research of the early reasons of food slavery. I want to explain why I attach a lot of significance to children`s experiences. I agree with one of the directions of the psychoanalysis claiming that the model of the early relations “mother - the child“ forms habitual models of relationship with itself (I - good, I - bad) and with the environment. These models are hardly identified by consciousness, but often are unconscious incentives or brakes in our today.
At the very beginning of life “from the point of view of the child, on light there is nothing, except him and therefore in the beginning mother - too part of the child. Primary support of mother - an important factor of mental development and formation of the relations in the early childhood. It supports the space surrounding the baby, caring that the world “did not fall“ upon it too early or too strongly. Diffident, disturbing or depressive mothers are not capable to provide such support, and the child can carry by the early feeling of “unsteadiness“ of world around and the relations with relatives through all further life.
Rather good mother in the course of care of the baby and communication with it creates potential space for development of its relations with the world. It acquaints the kid with new objects (food, toys, living beings), being conformed with his desires and opportunities“.
By two years at the child the feeling begins to be formed that he - separate of mother. It in everything is dependent on it, but for normal development it is important to it to try the independence.
For separation from mother, safe accommodation of the moments when she is absent nearby, in reality of the child there is something that “the baby appreciates and loves as by means of they are toys, baby`s dummies, small bottles with milk - he copes with situations when mother leaves and leaves it alone“.
If mother is insufficiently good and on the first year communication was created that only meal guarantees corporal and emotional proximity with favourite object, the food can become and here the main consolation … But now in a situation of separation from mother … To it there are many prerequisites - the food is always connected with pleasure, and receiving this pleasure - unlike many others - in process of a growing is more and more possible in autonomous, independent of Others, a format …
Thus, food dependence receives one more reinforcement … If significant Others can refuse to carry out desires of the child, then in process of the growing he gets access to self-satisfaction through food …
On materials of my book “The slave to food more and more? Revolt of slaves!“