What to do if the child is afraid of insects?
“My son in panic are afraid in recent days of flies. Marthe not the most “mushiny“ time, I do not represent in the summer, as if we worried these days. Flies to it seem everywhere and everywhere. Today refused to eat pancakes at the grandmother because it seemed to it that between pancakes the midge got. Yesterday in cafe arranged a hysterics: “Mummy, here is definitely not present flies? Mother, we will go home rather from here!“. Though usually to leave in cafe though something uneaten for it is almost impossible. How to react to hysterics? What to answer questions? I cannot be sure for 100% that there are no flies in cafe... Whether normally in general for the three-year-old child to have such fears, unclear from where undertaken?“ (Question to the psychologist.) I Will begin
with the last question. In general, for the three-year-old child an entomofobiya (fear of various insects) - the phenomenon not peculiar. Children of years to five with a great interest treat any living being, without having fastidiousness or sensation of fear, especially if none of adult these feelings impart. Therefore if the child of younger age feels the fears connected with insects, then most likely it is about the phobia provoked by someone from adults. Or someone from family members has such phobia and defiantly in the presence of the child is afraid of insects, or struggles with insects not less defiantly: “Cockroach! Press it! Press it! Fly! Beat her!“.
What causes such hazardous aggression of the adult is for certain very dangerous - the kid can come to such conclusion, beginning to be afraid of these small, but such terrible beings. At our human look, even such darlings and beautiful insects as butterflies, on closer examination are quite unattractive and frightening.
There is one more, unfortunately, quite widespread option of finding of such phobia: when someone more senior, than the kid, not necessarily adult, consciously frightens the small child: “You will not collect a toy, Tarakanishche will come, will steal you and will eat!“ You should not be surprised that after a two-three of repetitions of similar phrases, the child will begin to be afraid of cockroaches in panic.
Of course, you should not deceive the child, saying to him that there are no insects nearby absolutely. If the insect all - is found, there will be a hysterics, most likely, and the trust to the parent who deceived in such important question will be undermined. It is better to focus attention of the child that the parent can protect the kid: “I will be able to protect you“.
It is possible to begin with the similar phrase that to the child it became quieter under protection of the adult. He does not feel at the moments of fear of ability to stand for itself(himself) before the animal frightening to a shiver. The confidence in forces of the adult calms the child. Then it is possible to pass to phrases of type: “When we together - we will cope with any insect“. In this case the child as well as the adult, is allocated with force and confidence to cope with a situation, let yet not independently, and in team with the parent, but it is already an opportunity to help it to feel differently in the face of possible danger. It is an intermediate step on the way to: “You will cope - insects to you are not terrible!“.
If the child after the calming words of the adult continues to be anxious, it is possible to take him by hand and to bypass the room together to check how the situation with insects is and to be convinced that nothing threatens. It is not a whim of the child, to him really such action will help to find tranquility.
The person, as a rule, can be afraid of what he does not understand, or what he knows a little about. Therefore if to consider with the child the atlas or the encyclopedia corresponding to age, the sections devoted to insects it is possible to gain good therapeutic effect. The child gets acquainted with a fly, sees how she is arranged, than eats as lives - the fly becomes close and clear, it loses a frightening aura of mysteriousness and uncertainty, the child calms down.
It is good to esteem with the child of the fairy tale where the main heroes are insects. The fairy tale about “the Fly - Tsokotukhe“, but except it is most known, of course, V. Suteev has a number of fairy tales with his remarkable illustrations. Perhaps, the kid at first will just listen to the fairy tale, without having wished to look at pictures, or even will refuse to listen at all. Nothing terrible, it is possible to return to this offer later.
When the child already without awe listens to the tale of insects, it is possible to suggest it to stick together from plasticine of the one who was pleasant to it. It is good if the adult also takes part in a molding, but not just observes. When plasticine heroes enough collects, it is possible to organize plasticine theater in which the child will be the chief puppeteer operating once frightening animals, them not afraid now at all.
There is a little imagination and creative enthusiasm will help the adult to relieve the kid of the alarms and fears connected with insects.