How sense of guilt starts diseases?
Which of us had no sense of guilt in the life? It is familiar to everyone because of wine is a basic human emotion . Our some acts cause in us the easy pangs of conscience and some force to feel guilty all life. As far as we are capable to like this feeling, depends on many reasons: from features of character to weight of negative acts and events.
In religion and philosophy sense of guilt is considered the prerequisite of conscience, it is the cornerstone of personal and social responsibility therefore it is estimated as important positive human quality.
Psychotherapists deal with a negative side of sense of guilt when this emotion becomes the reason, the provoking and aggravating factor of various neurosises, neurotic states, mental and corporal diseases.
Unfortunately, sense of guilt can arise also at absolutely innocent person. For example, at the seven-year-old boy his beloved uncle in the eyes drowned. After this misfortune the child long could not recover, often dreamed as the uncle reproached him with what did not rescue. Though that was drunk and drowned on own rashness, at the boy sense of guilt for an imperfect act was fixed.
Later when he studied at institute, in a fight with its participation killed the best friend. With experiences (again could not rescue, help!) at it in the head appeared “ foreign thoughts “ “ fog “. The guy began to feel that “ hands became strangers “ - saw, but did not recognize them. Its mentality did not sustain experiences of powerful sense of guilt. Within 10 years he lived in it “ fog “ having retired into oneself. After psychotherapy together with sense of guilt all inadequate feelings and thoughts disappeared.
Or other history. Once upon a time there was a beauty and the clear head. She got used to excessive attention of men and easily broke hearts. More than once she was married also every time on passionate love. In the childhood endured a terrible grief: mother died. And the grandmother explained to the baby (that obeyed!) that mother died because the daughter did not obey her. And the little girl took hard, having assumed fault for death of mother. And when, having fallen in love, she threw the next husband who from - for it left the wife and children, the thrown spouse died of a grief.
New marriage of the expected happiness did not bring because after death of the ex-husband the beauty began to endure sharply the sense of guilt familiar to it since the childhood. And then and itself fatally ached. In hope for rescue it began to visit church, prayed, but did not lighten, did not come to psychotherapy yet.
From the point of view of religion here, it seems, everything is correct: the person admits the guilt, repents, prays, prayers and repentance tries “ to wash away the sin “. And the psychotherapist to rescue from the heavy experiences provoking an illness begins the work with the fact that helps the patient to overcome the false sense of guilt pursuing since the childhood for offense which did not make.
What mechanism of negative influence, destructive impact of sense of guilt on human body?
Both at children, and at adults sense of guilt can significantly influence health if at them since small years the habit to take the responsibility for personal and others` acts was created. Such habit can arise if the child gets a serious psychotrauma and from - for fears, magic thinking or inexperience takes the responsibility for this negative event. The senior children who got used to be responsible for younger brothers - sisters are especially inclined to take the fault.
By the way, not only the event, but also the act, feeling, thought contradicting ethical standards can become a reason for fault. And morally - ethical standards and beliefs are absorbed by the child in that environment in which he is since the birth, and are a consequence of educational measures and parental installations. Kids perfectly understand that it is good and that it is bad and that non-performance of rules leads to censure and punishment.
Children upon whom in the childhood the sudden grief falls trouble, begin to consider it as punishment for some own acts. Than the misfortune is more terrible and more serious, especially the child can feel as guilty. The child in such state readily assumes responsibility for behavior of adults and even for a negative event.
children`s experience of experience of heavy psychoinjuries starts Further fear together with alarm that the trouble can repeat. And the child has a readiness in further life again to assume responsibility for any misfortunes occurring around.
Even if the heavy psychotrauma passes in the childhood, at first sight, completely, it can have an effect already on adulthood when the traumatic situation, similar on weight of experiences, repeats. The familiar sense of guilt appearing after that and intolerablenesses of heavy experiences lead to failure of psychoprotective mechanisms, decrease in immunity which, in turn, and provoke neurosises and neurotic conditions, psychotic reactions or diseases of internals.
Parents often also do not realize to what catastrophic consequences they can lead their words when, for example, in the educational purposes repeat: “ If you do not obey, mother will get sick, the grandmother will die “ etc. Even such heavy event for the child as divorce of parents, mothers can use to accent fault of the child: “ The Father left us because you behaved badly if you do not obey, then and I will leave or I can die! “
And what child always and in everything obeys parents? And, God forbid, that happen to mother, for example, - and the impressionable, vulnerable child will already be ready to assume subconsciously fault for an illness or death. And it is a way to misfortunes and diseases.
Even if the child is also guilty of something, it is impossible to fixate attention on his fault and mistakes, calm better and distract it that he felt safe. It is so important for its health and the successful future!