What the relations in a cyberspace begin with?
Are pleasant to us it or not, but the cyberspace became a new boundary in the social relations. A heat with which people plunge into a network strike up acquaintances there, friends and even find darlings, will cause negative reaction from sceptics. Opponents the Internet will prove that these relations are not real, they not such as in the real world. Communication in a cyberspace simply cultural hobby cannot be also compared to real life, and those people who prefer to communicate with the help of wires and chips just sick dependent or are afraid of the close, real relations.
Whether truth that “ real “ the relations surpass the relations in a cyberspace? Let`s understand, but at first we will agree about a condition. What will we call the relations? It, first of all the communication of two or several people painted emotionally. At the same time it is not important whether we communicate face to face or we keep in this contact by means of the Internet. What the relations in a network begin with? As well as in life, from a meeting. Ourselves choose to ourselves the platform for meetings, be it the blog, a dating site, a thematic forum, the main thing that, coming on these resources, we automatically outline a circle of the interests. We begin to belong to the whole community of people to which cars, sex, money are also interesting, children, animal, etc., exchanging opinions on different subjects, we determine people of relatives to us by outlooks on life and far, we learn their cybernetic names and that information which they are ready to provide about themselves.
Of course, acquaintance on the Internet differs from acquaintance face to face. The network does it to safer, getting acquainted most often are not confused and do not worry as at the first meetings. It can consider the answers and control emotions. The Internet gives the chance to avoid formalities (age, a name, marital status, hobbies, appearance), about all this if there is a desire it is possible to learn in advance. Feature of acquaintance on the Internet also is, as if its absence. For example, when you just communicate with different people on the general subject. You just write the opinion and you receive in reply some reaction, it approximately how to communicate to the fellow traveler in the bus, you will not meet it any more. This form of relationship, superficial and/or temporary it is impossible to carry to full communication. These are superficial acquaintances. Of course, they can develop into something bigger if communicating want to recognize each other closer.
On the basis of what we want to know better the interlocutor, and we bring the long relations to networks? There is a process of a filtration of potential contacts, on the basis of conscious and unconscious motives. It is possible to refer to conscious motives: appearance of the interlocutor (photo, avatars), it “ usefulness “ it can help with something, enthusiasm for his ideas and thoughts, common interests, aspiration to find something the general (the status, problems, work, etc.) quantity of its posts on your messages. Unconscious motives also influence aspiration to acquaintance when the interlocutor satisfy the hidden requirements, for example, raises a self-assessment as a result of councils, or the partner reminds someone from his relatives, darlings, transfer of the feelings on the interlocutor etc. Anyway, what motives would not be for the long relations, the desire of two is necessary.
What occurs further when two persons felt that they are interesting each other, most often their communication becomes more private. And they exchange information which is closed for wide audience. It is the huge step forward based on trust to the partner. In psychology there is such concept as accession. When two persons understand that they are pleasant each other and the most important, to them is what to talk about. They have general views, similar vital stories. People begin to accept each other, to feel sympathy and support in communication.
There are people who easily strike up acquaintances and networks, but it remains superficial, everyone decides for himself what relations are closer to it. It is important to remember that the network, is model which can be used to look at itself, as if from outside. In psychology the law of the first impression which influences desire to continue communication with the person is well-known. They say that the first impression is formed in the first 30 seconds of acquaintance. The positive impression will remain if the interlocutor is smiling, keeps in touch eyes, holds a back directly and there is on comfortable wall-paper to people distance. On the Internet there is no such opportunity as interlocutor we “ we see “ reading its messages. And nevertheless the first impression is all the same formed. What moments influence positive perception of the person in a network?
It is necessary to tell that the person going online, resolves for itself an issue of own openness. There are people who almost completely transfer the personality to a cyberspace, and those who try to build the new character or a little, trying various cyberroles. Most often the mixed options of representation of the person in a network meet. But the first that the user does, being registered on any resources, it decides on the nickname and even more often an avatar (photo). Both can tell a lot of things, about the owner. The whole researches devoted to choice studying " are now conducted; the person and name “ in a cyberspace. All avatars can conditionally be divided on “ live “ and “ lifeless “. Under the first real photos of people, under the second fictional characters or images of this sort (the nature, abstraction, etc.) are understood It is also possible to allocate emotional coloring of avatars, aggressive, positive and neutral. And so the person will manage to make favorable first impression if as an avatar serves its positive photo and adverse if the aggressive picture is used. It is logical to assume that the avatar, it is much more, than, just appearance, it transfers an image which the person wants to create at people ready to communication with it. If can be behind appearance of a lot of things, then the image as if shouts, look I the little girl or I am a mother, or I am a clown, or I am a philosopher, etc. This the one whom the person would like to see himself or behind what he would like to hide.
Nickname (name), the same is powered by sense. The network is arranged so that often it is impossible to use the usual name, it is necessary to attach to it various additions in the form of year of birth or letters from different languages or other symbols. It is made in order that to mix messages from people with identical names. Therefore in a network on one resource, you will not meet two absolutely identical Kat, Len, Serezh etc. So this name is unique, as well as information put in it. Than more simply in reading a name, the it is easier said and if it is positive, the more true there will be a favorable impression about the interlocutor. On the other hand, the unusual nickname and an avatar, certainly, can attract attention of people the intrigue.
Also favorable the first impressions leaves directly style of the letter. Here it is possible to mark out the following features. The first and widely known is a politeness. Of course, teach it us since the childhood, but there are people who consider that the Internet, this place where it is possible to spit on all cultural laws, it is freedom zone from conventions and prejudices. There is a wish to notice that even in this zone there is society which builds the rules of communication, so it is possible to meet rejection of rudeness, a mat, roughness etc. of
the Second feature which will promote formation of positive first impression at communication on the Internet - it is the developed outlook and existence of beliefs. The network is arranged in such a way that the person is presented there most often by the text by means of which he states the thoughts. If to the person is what to tell, his opinion is independent, and he is able to inform of the thoughts. It is big plus. Complete persons attract also in communication face to face, but the number of the people who are attracted to them increases in the Internet, in a network the perception of thoughts is influenced only by ability to state them, and such things as the status, age, appearance exert the minimum impact.
The third feature is the length of messages. Not for nothing say that brevity the sister of talent. When the user gets on the page of a bolg, a forum, etc., faces a large number of text information, it zashumlyat perception of the text, eyes want to jump, capture everything to a paste. It is similar to a situation when you suddenly would appear in the company where people tell everything at once. Therefore long posts, it is heavy to read in a network. If the text is written shortly and in fact, then it will create positive impression about written it.
Existence in the text of a positive, works just as a smile at the first acquaintance. Ability to joke on kind or to praise the interlocutor, makes favorable impression. All know expression, the tender word and a cat is pleasant. In a network it is accepted to speak frankly about the feelings, disregarding reaction of the interlocutor, by the principle “ his face is not visible “ but those people who are able to feel sympathy and support revitalize psychological climate of any the Internet of community.
There is a wish to emphasize that any laws of the first impression will not help to establish the deep relations if on other end of a wire, is “ dead “ person. Therefore it is necessary to recognize that “ real “ the relations not so much surpass the relations in a cyberspace how many differ from them. And of course one will never force out another.