Whether kindness is always full-fledged? Part one.
“... We will name the clear head an urodka
Kind we will declare sumasbrodky... “
At different philosophical schools, different authors have a huge number of definitions, each of them puts the sense in concept, but in the analysis it is possible to allocate what the majority agrees with.
The explanatory dictionary of Ushakov gives the following definition of kindness: an abstract noun to “ kind “. In other words, actually kindness - concept abstract, and, without being shown in concrete acts, cannot exist. However and the made acts can not always guarantee a kindness celebration.
Kindness is a responsiveness, these are the kind acts in relation to others caused not by accepted standards of morals, politeness and desire to look better in the opinion of people around, and internal requirement to make so that to another it was good. Of course, to an acceptor (or to the recipient?) kindness motives of the donor can be indifferent, but the matter is that any acts have effects and consequences which can be both positive, and negative.
If to reflect, absolute kindness does not exist. Kindness is relative.
Consequence the first. The act made for good to someone can be reflected by the evil.
Consequence the second. Means, in those whom we call kind people, there are also other qualities. But we live, we cannot be ideal.
And here the balance is important, than the person what consequences of his acts, kind it or do-good is guided.
Kindness is an utiraniye of tears, but not a wipe of snivels, being figuratively expressed. It when you worry that will be farther that the perfect good did not turn back the evil in the end result. You will make homework for the child, so he will not learn to think.
Why some people are ready to share the last with strangers, forgetting about interests of own family? Whether dobras they? What forces them to give resources, both material, and more valuable, on the party?
Certainly, there is also the return. You remember? “ I am part of that force that eternally wants the evil, and eternally makes the benefit “. Good, the evil, the benefit, harm - all this very much and very relatively. Sometimes making not the kindest, from the point of view of the recipient or society which is not wishing to penetrate deeply into an essence, an act you save the person from involving in trouble. Or you help to understand something. Or you allow something to learn.
And kind acts it is possible to corrupt. And quickly enough.
Well, really, what child will consider by dobra the nurse with the syringe or the teacher who rolled “ stake “? There has to be something else, allowing to estimate an act. And it is fine, there are such children. The story about the similar phenomenon got to me in one of blogs. I give a fragment:
“ Night. Shining itself with small lamps that to wake nobody, through the word repeating “ sweetheart “ and “ honey “ nurses give medicine.
- Mothers and what, doctors and nurses are never tired?
- Well they always smile. You sometime saw the bad doctor or the nurse? “
Kindness - conscious commission of kind acts. The candle loses nothing if from it light other candle, but allows other candles to make something good.
At everyone the motives for kindness, someone cannot pass by suffering, to someone the assessment, public opinion is important, someone thinks of effect of an act, someone cares for that kindness reached appointment.
“ Do that has to, and be that will be “. All the same for all it will never not be ideal.
Thus, true kindness always one, and here kindness defective can be divided into four main groups and to stop in detail on everyone.
Types and subspecies of defective kindness.
1. Kindness demonstrative . “ Let all look and admire. At this option as an object of application of kindness serves an external environment. Exists in three versions - “ I am not appreciated, but I differently cannot “ “ a podsazhivaniye on an approval dose “ and “ manifestation for someone else`s account “.
About the first option everything is simple if the person does not get desirable approval though this desire also carefully disappears even from itself, sooner or later he breaks and stops creating good. However, people, so inclined to masochism, meet that they will continue, reveling in own misfortune, misunderstanding of people around and fruitless hope for gratitude. Fruitless - because sometimes about good nobody asked it, so, and will estimate.
In principle if not too to be fond, there is nothing terrible in this group, approval by society raises own assessment what all of us usually need. But only until behind aspiration to obtain the credit the act is not lost. However, the one who is inclined to demonstrativeness usually very easily sits down on this approval, and “ kind acts “ are multiplied - are multiplied - are multiplied.
The ugliness is that the decision is made by one person, and responsibility for the decision is born by others, usually his family which interests move on a background. And such kindness is practically not subject to an urezonivaniye, it is impossible to refuse to the person the right for kindness. It and pritaskivany home kitties - doggies, are fed - treat - clean for which everything, except the author of idea, it and transfer in fund of the help to the victims of hunger in Somalia of considerable part of the humblest family budget, options weight. To society all the same, it will approve and will support, but here will hardly adjoin or somehow still will promote both to addressees of care, and the victims during rendering kindness.
If kindness is directed to those who really objectively should be rescued, then and let. Let`s understand process, we will paint roles, we will settle the relations. An exception when such kindness is bad that is called “ in general “ - in protecting interests of adult capable people to the detriment of interests of the children, there is no family, any kindness.
Be continued ]