How to help the child to cope with an inferiority complex?Are rare what person aged from 12 till 15 years is happy with the appearance. During this period seldom who likes what it observes in a mirror. Comes “ age of an ugly duckling “ which
will turn only over time into a beautiful swan. On assurances of adults of type: “ You very much even nice, despite your heat-spots! “ “ And absolutely you not thick
(thin), I at your age were an ugly creature at all! “ reaction happens the most inconsistent.
Also it is useless to persuade the suffering child that through
few years everything is normalized. What few years, if disco already tomorrow?!
Is developed the real fight for purity of skin (remember the advertizing “ Clerasil “) a pursuit of achievement of a figure 90 - 60 - 90 even if native forms 60 - 90 - 60, and boys seek to become the present copy of Arnold Shvatsneger and to it similar.
Peace citizens of middle age are sometimes frightened, observing results of this fight in various public places: a children`s face zashtukatureno foundation, from above it is ruddy, roughness of a covering demonstrates existence of heat-spots. The body which still is insufficiently created is dragged away as far as fabric allows, on the stumbling legs - the footwear reminding
the orthopedic device. Some suffer from - for the bulged ears, others - concerning rare hair, a shape of a nose, etc. But - alas! - same result: the problem of appearance remained unsoluble.
For the adults sometimes loaded by questions of getting of money and other stresses, these problems often seem trifles. Actually what the child endures now can leave a mark for the rest of life and
for many years will force to consider itself as the hopeless freak whom only plastic surgery will be able to rescue. The depression, and also bulimia (uncontrollable thirst for a gluttony) or anorexia (refusal of an organism to eat food) can become consequences of these experiences.
To parents quite on forces to help the teenager will cope with these difficulties, there would be a desire and feeling of a step. The main thing - not to push away the child indifference and a sneer.
* Be glad if the child devotes you, adults, in
the experiences, it means that he
trusts you and hopes for your help.
* Surely understand whether really there is a reason of
for concern. Define, for example, perhaps, at
of your child hereditary completeness, estimate
correctness of its food.
* Consult at the expert - the nutritionist as it is correct to correct
a diet of the teenager.
* Think whether that physical
loading which he receives is sufficient for it.
* If is not present, then try to define what type
of sport optimum is suitable for your child: if he
does not show physical activity in relation to
to other people, there is no need to force it to practice boxing
or other contact sports. Perhaps, it
will suit swimming, fencing, tennis, badminton.
* Pay attention if the child is concerned by a problem with
with face skin. You reduce it on consultation to good
to the cosmetologist.
* By means of magazines help
to the child to choose clothes in which he
will feel comfortable and conveniently for teenagers.
* At the choice of clothes be guided not only by the taste,
but also by the directions of fashion what silly it to you not
would seem. Remember in what you put on at such
age and as your parents reacted to it.
* If your child needs cosmetic
means (for example, at the increased sweating),
pick up the deodorant suitable it or cream.
* The young girl help to pick up and use
the neutral, not injuring skin, cosmetics and the
type of a make-up.
* Choosing new image for your child,
listen also to its councils. Perhaps, and to you
should choose something new for itself.
Having shared alarms concerning image of your child, you
have an opportunity easily and easy to step over
an abyss which the matured child strives to dig
among themselves and “ outdated ancestors “.
Progress to you and understanding, dear parents! Let our children will have
understanding and patient