How to keep romanticism in the relations?All relations begin as romantic. We cannot wait for a meeting, we hope that this person will love us all life, we write love messages, we surround our partner with love and attention... But time goes, and romanticism begins to disappear gradually from the relations. It happens so often that it is already considered regularity. But whether it is correct? Whether it is pleasant to us that we any more not with such impatience wait for a meeting with darling? What are we already not so attentive to each other and we cease to do pleasant that the sexual inclination vanishes?
Romanticism should not leave the relations, so is not put by the nature. When romanticism disappears - it is signal that our feelings begin to weaken. We begin to move away from each other, we become indifferent.
There are three main reasons for the fact that we gradually grow cold on the relation to each other: disappointment, offense, perception of existence of other person as due.
Disappointment People disappoint with
us from time to time, it is not possible to avoid it. At the very beginning of the relations we build our partner to a pedestal, we see in it only good. Eventually we recognize the person more and more and we are disappointed in his some qualities. The disappointment leads to the fact that we lose interest and we grow cold to our partner.
Sometimes, that people take offense at each other. At one it occurs more often, at others is more rare. Everything depends on that, how correctly people can build up the relationship with each other. Outstanding promises can offend us. What told can offend us or our partner did not tell. The fact that our requirements are not considered that we were forgotten to be wished happy birthday or a wedding anniversary can offend us. The offense causes desire to become reserved.
Perception of each other as due
Between you certain relations, perhaps exist, you are married. All difficult work on forming of the relations is complete, and the center of your attention moves to career, children, friends, a hobby... Whether your relationship remains after that the same?
Hardly. As soon as you begin to look at your partner as on something, present as a piece of furniture at your life, you cause in him or in it offense and disappointment that leads to cooling of the relations.
There are several ways to keep the romantic relations.
Learn to see in your partner the person with all his shortcomings, but do not idealize him. Be ready to inevitable disappointments and offenses, learn to forgive. And remember the most important that the person offends and disappoints you not because does not love but because the human nature is imperfect.
do not hide the negative emotions which collected in you, offenses, disappointments from the partner, something to change need. You speak on these subjects, discuss problems together. Only in dispute the truth is born.
you Say to the partner as strongly you love him as though it was the last day in your life.
Continuous physical contact is also necessary for the long and healthy relations. Therefore if after some break you do not feel special desire to renew it, do not stop attempts.
Further you will feel that it becomes easier to make contact and the desire will return to you.