How to communicate with quick-tempered people?All of us absolutely different - with the character, temperament, the habits. Some of us quiet and balanced, others - impulsive and quick-tempered. Nevertheless, what we were, every day we should communicate with each other, to work in common on projects, to together solve problems and to reach compromise.
Certainly, well, of course, when we have to communicate with quiet and judicious people, but there is a lot of around us and people, so to speak, with character, very impulsive and quick-tempered. How to be with them, it is really better to minimize communication with such people or, using a last resort, at all to protect itself from communication with such people?
Probably, you should not rush to extremes, the impulsive and quick-tempered person - it does not mean bad, silly and limited. Simply it is a trait of character, same, as well as any other. The most important here - to learn to understand correctly some traits of character of other people and to be able correctly to communicate (i.e., to communicate with this or that person, in view of his character and temperament).
How to define, the quick-tempered person or not?
Quick-tempered people, as a rule:
quickly fly into a rage (from a quiet state pass into nervous excited);
sharply raise the voice, expressing the indignation if do not agree with something. In other words, quiet conversation can outgrow in raised tone and even shout;
emotionally gesticulate hands, and also express the emotions the corresponding mimicry;
are very vigorous and mobile by nature (most often, it is choleric persons);
these people constantly in the movement, cannot remain sitting a long time on one place, they even somewhere are irritated by silence and tranquility.
How to communicate with quick-tempered people?
I with quick-tempered people can find a common language, it is necessary to adopt the following councils only:
Always communicate with quick-tempered people quietly, at all do not show the indignation.
As soon as your quick-tempered interlocutor begins to increase tone, and you raise the (but tone of your voice has to remain, nevertheless, is slightly lower than tone of the interlocutor), remaining at the same time still quiet as a boa. Your tranquility and lower tone of a voice will force to calm down a little and the nervous interlocutor.
If your interlocutor already passes to shout, then pass to quiet and silent tone of conversation again, but in your tone of a voice the absolute confidence in has to be felt what you report about.
If shout does not turn into constructive conversation, finish conversation and give the chance to your interlocutor to cool down, recover and once again to rethink your conversation. As a rule, already in half an hour - hour the quick-tempered interlocutor will be ready to conversation continuation, and will behave much more quietly.
should begin Conversation with quick-tempered people with positive “ yes, I understand your point of view, and somewhere I share it “ and further already offer your alternative (but offer as a certain choice). Quick-tempered people sometimes painfully accept foreign point of view, considering what only true is only their own.