How to bring up the kind person?the Author - Tatyana Pozdeeva
Each of parents dreams to grow up the children kind, happy people. However it is not enough one desire.
in the period of preschool age for development of moral shape of the child is boundless influence of parents, their authority. Parents are the first teachers of the children.
What should be brought up in our children since the earliest childhood what there is a moral world of the child of?
Concept “ kind person “ - very difficult. It includes the most various qualities, long since valued people. Kind it is possible to call the person at whom are developed love for the country, to the people nearby living, active aspiration to do good, honesty, conscientiousness, call of duty, justice, diligence.
the Main feature of this scale of qualities - their continuity. Only all together and well developed they define kindness of the person.
Kindness - an alloy of various qualities making the moral world of the person. Each of them moves behavior of the person in this or that situation. That his behavior from early age was kind in any situation, it is necessary from the " system; " engines; human soul to allocate main. Such defining element are moral needs of the person.
to Cultivate the developed moral requirements - the main task of parents. And it is quite feasible. What is necessary for its successful decision?
Unfortunately, some adults make gross blunders in education of the children, causing irreparable injury to formation at them moral requirements.
the Foremost, widespread mistake is division of people in a family on “ the “ and “ strangers “ “ bad “ and “ good “. It is difficult for adult sometimes and to understand it. And how to be guided to the child: what person and how to treat him? Here he also asks about it adults. The answer has to be approximately such: “ All people should be loved and to treat all " kindly;.
Is close in essence to the first and other mistake in family education causing damage to formation in children of moral requirements. Often parents inspire in children: “ Obey seniors, they teach you only to good “. Under seniors mean usually themselves and the immediate family.
Or even worse happens: parents sometimes transfer the relations with neighbors, colleagues, friends to children. Such mother with the neigbour will quarrel and orders to the children: “ Now you do not greet Anna Ivanovna and that I from her Verkaya did not see you any more, understood? “ you Remember
, kindness - responsiveness, a sincere arrangement to people, aspiration to do good. And her education is carried out first of all in the parental house. The warm, friendly atmosphere in a family, a valid, caring attitude of her members to each other and to people in general, focus of influence of parents promote formation of the person ready to make good deeds and to appreciate good.
Kindness is generated and eats kindness. The kid aspires to emotionally - to moral communication with adults, waits from them for caress and willingly answers the same. Parents at the same time need to be extremely attentive to the child, not to offend him by indifference, irritability. But kindness in the attitude towards children has to be combined with reasonable and consecutive insistence to them. In process of a growing of the child it is necessary to develop at it aspiration to be good to people. Kindness in understanding of children is and generosity, readiness to share everything. Reasonably those parents who encourage this desire arrive.
When parents inspire in the child need to show care of those who need it, to help the person feeling pain or a grief it is possible to claim safely that the child will grow up careful, understanding pain and chagrin of others. But how to help the kid to create with itself such qualities? Some believe that any special receptions and methods for this purpose are not required, it is just necessary to show positive traits of character more often. For example, parents, seeing as one kid offends another, by all means have to stop the offender, having explained that this way it is impossible to act that quarrel will not help the solution of a controversial issue.
the Parents wishing to bring up the child capable to endure others pain as the, have to give help needing it, precisely describing the feelings and experiences, to prove humane acts and measures of punishment, to teach children to take the responsibility when it is demanded by a situation, to establish socially acceptable standards of behavior of the house and on the street, laboriously explaining their sense.
Such education is necessary when kids for the first time begin to realize the isolation from others, difference of the pain from others when they or show care of people, or egoistically pass by foreign sufferings. As show researches, the children able to care for others in two and a half years show this quality and in seven years.
Formation of kindness begins with preschool age when the adult shows in relation to the child love, caress, often uses gentle words, strokes, praises the kid for each manifestation of goodwill, trains in ways of sympathy and attention.
Cannot allow the child to show malevolence in relation to adults and children, especially to support these actions with the positive assessment (the kid breaks points from a face of the grandmother, and that laughs). It is necessary to know that the child is very susceptible at this age to an assessment of the adult and quickly acquires what caused positive reaction and that - negative.
At younger preschool age is important that social experience of the kid was replenished with a set of single positive acts. He is not capable to make independently generalization yet, but gradually thanks to estimates of adults begins to understand that it is good and that it is bad.
at the age of 4-5 years occurs gradual understanding by the child of moral values. It is already capable to elementary synthesis of the personal experience which is saved up earlier. Ideas of character and ways of manifestation of the positive attitude towards adults, children, the nature are fixed. The problem of education of the benevolent relation to people around at this stage can be considered executed if the child has elementary independent generalizations and desire “ to be good “ similar to the hero.
At the advanced preschool age children are capable not only of synthesis of the experience of the relations, but also of their analysis, of an explanation of the reasons of the shortcomings noticed in them. It is necessary to emphasize also that at this age the foundation of moral education is laid. Life experience or will approve it over time in the positive relation to people around, or will force to change. the family, preschool institution, people around exert
On development in the child of ideas of morals impact at the same time. And influence it happens both positive, and negative, it is sometimes inconsistent. For example, sending to morning of the kid to kindergarten, mother can repeat several times: “ Give Nobody the toy, it will be broken “. In kindergarten the tutor to teach children to be kind, to share toys. How to arrive to the kid in such situation? These contradictions can cause a dissatisfaction, cunning. As a result the child can not have clear ideas of how to arrive in each case.
Children sensitively react to manifestations of kindness, the spiteful attitude towards them, sincerely reach for people sympathetic. The way to good and justice begins with ability to understand another.
the Tutor has to pay special attention to the first, sometimes imperceptible attempts of the child to show sympathy for the people surrounding it, it has to support its good intentions. In the period of the preschool childhood the child worries and empathizes especially sincerely. Therefore it is important not to miss the moment, not to allow to stiffen to quickly developing soul of the kid.
Approval of adults helps the child to be convinced of correctness of the acts, causes desire to repeat them, at the kid the aspiration to be good, to become even better wakens. Told in time, impressively surely gets a response in soul of the child. It is necessary to teach children to sympathy both on positive, and on negative examples. Only when comparing good, kind with bad, angry moral senses of the child are formed!