" test; What you for a bird? “ - recommendations for passed the testAuthor of the Test, prefaces and recommendations - the psychologist Nikolay Ivanovich Kozlov. The test is taken from the book “ How to treat itself and people or practical psychology for every day “.
are excluded explanations for passing of book version of the test From this article.
Tests love everything or almost everything, but the majority answers questions only in order that, having known the result to estimate - no, not itself, and the test: as far as the test precisely guessed that the person knew about himself and without it... Yes, tests help the person to think once again of themselves, to look on the features a little “ from outside “ but the main function of popular tests - entertainment.
" test; What you for a bird? “ - not boring, but it is given with other purposes here. I am afraid that somebody will begin to perceive the rules stated above and recommendations too rectilinearly, without having correlated to the features and the personal situation. The test helps to understand that there are no general recommendations that the quality decorating one person can disturb another.
It is obviously bad to swear, for example. But several people I had to learn to swear because they it were not able. And they, in their situation, needed it.
Answering questions, it is necessary to choose one from three answers. If you have doubts, choose just most under - the answer going for you. This or that answer does not say that you it is better or worse, and just that you this or that.
What shows the test?
by test you can correlate yourself to three rather different and bright personal portraits called conditionally “ Pigeon “ “ Ostrich “ and “ Hawk “.
If you want to change...This test gives to
only one of possible “ cuts “ your personality, but, we hope, with its help you understood some features better. Not so important, what lines in you are more expressed - the Pigeon, the Ostrich or the Hawk, the fact that you once again looked at yourself as if from outside is important.
Probably, not everything in itself satisfies you. If you decided to change, be ready to discomfort situations - it is an inevitable stage in the course of growth.
The consent to change is similar to a consent to operation: some time will be painful to you, but you are exempted from an old illness.
the Following exercises can help you to be exempted from the weak, undesirable parties of your personality, to develop your strengths.
Can seem to you that some tasks develop negative qualities: why them to train? There is a confusion: you are offered to develop abilities, but not qualities. Qualities are forever, and abilities - only when it is necessary.
Whether it is necessary to be able “ to beat “? “ To Beat “ - it is not necessary, and “ to be able to beat “ - happens very much even it is necessary...
That is necessary for the Pigeon
the Diagnosis and the general instructions.
you need to mature and become more samosto - yatelny, to begin to live life, often contrary to expectations or requests of people around. It is necessary to learn to be the person for itself, but not the person for others. You have the right to be oneself. You should allow yourself a lot of things from what so far for you is internally not permitted.
It does not mean that you have to become the bad person, but that kind which in you there is a lot of, has to be reliably protected.
1. Exercise “ Not - a smile “.
the Smile - it is fine, she always paints you. But you and “ catch “ on a smile: you smiled - means, told “ Yes “. And you are sure that it is always the most correct answer?
To become “ more free “ the person, learn not to smile in response to the smile turned to you. Allow themselves to be both gloomy, and serious.
2. Exercise “ Is not present “. it is difficult for
to speak to you “ Is not present “ - you do not want to afflict the person, he can take offense or become angry about you. And so, you have to learn to speak “ Is not present “ quietly and resolutely. In - the first, you have the right to it, in - the second, it “ Is not present “ it is perceived normally.
3. Exercise “ Capture of an initiative “.
you Learn to take an initiative in conversation and affairs.
4. Exercise “ Non-standard acts “. you are too dependent
on opinions of surrounding people and are afraid to be beyond standard (“ as all “) behavior. Allow yourself any reasonable, but non-standard acts. It is accepted to stand on the bus-stop only quietly, but to you it is cold - jump or do exercises. People around will look at you as on abnormal? - In - the first, they are not right, and, in - the second what to you put to their views and estimates?
5. Exercise “ Lip “.
If looks of disapproval of people around are maintained by you all - hardly, it is necessary to train the mental stability. On the street or in transport raise an upper lip a little, baring gums and teeth, and your person will begin to get unpleasant expression. Allow themselves to be with such ugly, unpleasant person. Exercise is good what you can regulate " here; tension level “. It will become heavy - lower a little a lip; but you do not feel tension - raise a lip above...
6. Exercise “ I Will present you an assessment “.
Is exercise will facilitate to you and performance of the previous tasks, and will make you more internally free. In life and communication you learn to be not estimated, and estimating. Do not wait until estimate you, - shoot an assessment by the first. Making non-standard acts, watch various reactions of people around (not all from them will be adequate and clever). Made a mistake and brought someone - do not worry, and observe how (correctly, is not present? cleverly, is not present?) this person will react to your mistake.
7. Exercise “ Freedom of negative emotions “.
you are afraid to touch or afflict with the inappropriate (especially negative) emotions of people around. It is kind care, but you need to get rid of this fear. Whatever your emotions were, you have the right to them. More often, express the negative emotions to people around or just in space more freely.
8. Exercise “ Freedom of a voice and opinions “. you Learn to tell
loudly and surely, express categorically more often.
9. Exercise “ Freedom of charges “.
you Learn not to justify youselves in response to charges, and to turn immediately into counterattack and to accuse opposite most. And even do not wait when begin to attack you: begin with charges.
10. Exercise “ Bring order! “. Take
to yourself for the rule to bring order to shops and other services of service where there is no service yet. Allow themselves to do remarks to workers of trade and consumer services (not important, they will be effective or not).
That is necessary for the Ostrich
the Diagnosis and the general instructions.
your coldness worsening contacts with people and limiting perception of all paints of the world - not natural, and only a consequence of your fear of communications and experiences. Yes, to live happens painfully, but it is not an occasion yet not to live in general. And what was so painful in the childhood and youth, already not terribly now. Try to open yourself to the world, and the world will open itself for you! Your main task - to develop in itself interest and attention to I surround - to shchy people, to learn them better to understand and feel.
1. Exercise “ " Associations;.
Is the known game in the company when one leaves, and think of someone. The guesser has to set “ abstract “ questions (for example, “ What thing of house use? “), and answering has to think of the thought person, trying it is associative to connect with him the answer.
2. Exercise “ Storing of the persons “.
Develop in yourself a habit to remember faces of the people surrounding you. Looked, closed eyes, tried to restore everything zrimo, in details. It is impossible, something “ you do not see “ - you look again that storing was full.
3. Exercise “ And how he laughs? “
Looking at faces, try to present visually: “ And how this person laughs or cries? How it speaks in love? What it is confused? As he uses cunning, tries “ to get out “? How he is rude? Swears? What it offended? What it was in three years (purely visually - you see?) What it will be in old age (you see?) “
4. Exercise “ And what it it? “
In the company of friends where there is a chatter and entertainments, be switched off from vanity, silently listen to others and try to understand: “ Why why this person speaks or does it - and so? What it it? He is really so cheerful or only pretends to be? She is silent - interesnichat? It represents the clown - what for? “
5. Exercise “ I eyes of others “. try to watch with
In various situations and with different people on yourself with eyes of your interlocutor. What impression you make? What does he think of you?
6. Exercise “ Empathy “.
In conversation on the personal, touching the interlocutor subjects try actively and it is interested (not externally, and vnut - Rennes) to listen to it, without intercepting an initiative and not otklyu - being hoped, and empathizing and trying to put himself on its place.
7. Exercise “ Transformation “. Try to feel
on the place of other person. Present that it is you. Put (put) yourself on its place, get into his appearance, get into its inner world. Reproduce its landing, gait, a mimicry, the movements. Reincarnate - try to feel it feelings and to think his thoughts.
8. In the companies get out for a role of the animator more often - the inventor. It is impossible - you study.
That is necessary for the Hawk
the Diagnosis and the general instructions. Seeing
in surrounding enemies, you involuntarily turn into them even those who could be to you a friend. You against their will turn possible adherents into the competitors. That it did not occur, you have to learn to be more tolerant and benevolent.
1. Exercise “ Smile “.
you have to accustom yourself to that the warm, benevolent smile became usual expression of your person. If it is absent, there has to be a readiness for it. The internal smile has to be always.
2. Exercise “ World to you “.
at a meeting with any person you have to have the First phrase (the internal phrase, installation) “ World to you! “. Present it it with all the heart, all heart! Leaving in the morning the house, throw it to the sky, birds, trees! Some nice tree it is possible and to embrace.
If you begin to argue or swear at somebody, remember each 3 minutes and repeat: “ World to you! “ - it will help you to stop.
Much like more (and just rescues) other internal phrase, namely: “ Well “. That it happened, you tell each five minutes to yourself with an internal smile: “ Well! “. Shout at you - “ Well “. You shout - too “ Well “. Through any time it will not want to shout to anybody any more, and in soul will become light-and warmly.
3. Exercise “ Transfer of an initiative “. transfer by
to the interlocutor an initiative in conversation More often. Let conversation will be about the fact that it wants and as he wants.
4. Exercise “ The Assessment on “. become more often than
estimated, but not estimating. How near you people around feel? To them it is cozy from you and near you? If someone made a mistake, pay attention not to this fact, and to the reaction in this situation.
5. Exercise “ Pleasant conversation “.
If a question not too basic (by the way, you learn in a thicket to estimate it quite so), try to make conversation just pleasant. The interlocutor is right or not, is silly or not - make so that to him with you it was good.
6. Exercise “ The Cloud in " trousers;. you Learn to tell
less, more quietly, more softly. Try to agree, but not to object. You speak to a thicket “ Yes “ but not “ Is not present “. Avoid categorical phrases and intonations.
7. Exercise “ Compliments and gratitude “.
Use any convenient opportunity to tell the person something about it and about his actions good. Everything that in the person was pleasant to you, express: eyes, smile, and, of course, words. Allow themselves to admire: “ You perfectly look today! “ “ With all the heart thanks, it is simply delightful! “ The Main thing that it was sincere, and it depends only on you.
8. Exercise “ The Thunder-storm is cancelled “.
you Learn to constrain the negative emotions. It is heavy to you to constrain them, and surrounding it is heavy to transfer them. You learn not to swear. Not poorly whole week everything all to forgive, accept with understanding, not to criticize and not to do remarks, not to condemn, not to swear? If week poorly, then how many it is not weak?
9. Exercise “ Wise man “.
you Study wisdom, contemplate outlook on life and ability to lose. Your loss - your new experience and an opportunity to learn from this a lesson. Whatever occurred before being indignant or be upset, wonder: “ And as if the wise person treated it? “